Trust the process and enjoy the ride

You have a choice. To trust or not to trust. Life is much about experience, so it boils down to the fact that you will either resist or accept the experiences life brings. Fact is, they will come anyway. Like a surfer, a wave is something to get excited about, because he chose to ride it., as opposed to one who has fear, and gets bashed about.

The physical aspects, and the related psychological aspects are so complex by themselves, and in their interactions, that you will never understand more than a smidgeon. Be at peace with that, and do your conscientious best. Life has been on this planet for about 3.5 billion years, and it seems aspects of it were brought by comets. So, your trust is irrelevant. Your fear is irrelevant. Your best efforts at optimizing can add a little to the value of it.

Perhaps the kindest response to that is to point out that other people are no more trustworthy than you are, mainly because they are constantly changing and are not just one person, but rather lots of different people; some are those people you can trust while they are there,but they will soon be replaced by somebody completely untrustworthy.

Once you become accustomed to all the different people in yourself and in other people also, you won’t really need to go to the cinema. I know that appears to be a rather strange idea to you, but if you watch yourself carefully and persistently you will see that it is perfectly true; each different situation calls up a different chap and sooner or later as you get older you will get to know them. The hows and whys of all that is a matter of considerable and extended study, and as you get to be more familiar with yourself as a whole, and realise that you are no different from anyone else, all these things won’t appear to be quite as confusing as they appear to be right now.

If little betrayals teach you valuable lessons then thank the man that betrayed you, because he has done you a favour; you can go through your life eyes wide open or eyes tight shut – you choose. So the short point is that it is generally unwise to expect others to keep a confidence and not betray you, because they don’t have any choice in the matter; would you trust you? – I certainly wouldn’t trust me. If you can ever find somebody that isn’t constantly changeable – and they are one in 100 billion trillion, then by all means trust them if, and only if they have proven to you that they are trustworthy, but if not, be extremely careful with what you trust with others.

Always remember that the road to hell is paved with good intentions. It is much wiser to expect people to be worse – which can only mean less likeable, than you would wish them to be;they have good intentions also. All in all it is the better part of wisdom to be cynical and sceptical about human beings; as cynical and sceptical as you would be about yourself, because that cherished picture of yourself hidden up in your attic somewhere – rather like a picture of Dorian Gray, isn’t exactly the rather charming chap that you imagine it is, is it? So have pity on others, they have no more choice than you do.

Like it or not it is simply not possible to go through life with your gloves up like a boxer defending himself, because from time to time you simply have to trust some people – for example the bus driver of the bus in which you are travelling, or a pilot, or whoever is driving whatever car in which you find yourself. But with matters personal and rather cherished never trust a living soul. That’s just common sense isn’t it? But don’t whatever you do try to turn it (sensible mistrust) into some sort of art form – that is just idiotic. Cheers!