Trust the people in your life at right time and for right reasons

 You can trust anyone in your life but ultimately, they are not the one (very less likely) who will stay in your life permanently. How close that person be, be it your best-friend or girlfriend, he/she will have priorities to do and will probably leave when he/she had to.But the people who will stay with you always is your family. Whatever be the situation, you may discuss with them or not, they will stand by you. You may or may not feel right to discuss all the things with your family members but they will be always with you.

It's truth there are at-least two persons in our life who only want good and healthy things happen to us without demanding anything in return. Who are they? Simple, mom and dad. Those are the two people I trust to stay in my life, Always. Your parents love you unconditionally. They have raised you since you were a baby. They will always support you and give you advice shall you need it. But your parents will grow old and sadly, die. If you are lucky to live long enough, at some point in time, you will have to face the deaths of your parents. That means they can’t stay in your life. Not forever.

Most people believe marriage is sacred. Once you say your vow you are supposed to stay together, through thick and thin, for better or for worse. However, we still have to accept the fact that you and your spouse are practically strangers. Your bond prior to marriage is probably based on physical attraction and a few shared hobbies. Maybe a few road trips together. There is no guarantee that you and your spouse are compatible forever. Life changes and people change.

What if one day you two realize that you can’t stand each other, that you no longer can stay under the same roof? What if one of you gives in to the temptation of extra-marital affairs and break off the trust between you two? There are millions of things that could happen. Chances are you cannot trust your partner to stay in your life. Not forever. You know each other since birth. You tell each other secrets. You form an alliance to fight again your parents and their ridiculous rules. Even though sometimes you hate them you still love them. And because you are family, you share a special connection that is hard to find.

But we all have to grow up and so are your siblings. Pretty soon they will move out of the house. They move across the country. Maybe even to another country. They build families of their own. Before you realize it, you guys will only meet once a year at Christmas and talk no more than two or three times a year. So most likely, your siblings will not stay in your life. Not always.

You know each other since kindergarten. You go to football practices together. Skip classes together. Go to detention together. You are inseparable. People think you are siblings. A Saturday is not a Saturday without you sharing a few beers and playing video games. But all of that will end eventually. Life happens and one way or another you will have to go your separate ways. Some of you will have families to prioritize. Some of you will have job careers to worry about. You still care for each other but you are not as close as before. You talk to each other less and finally, not at all. Hence, you can't trust your friends to stay in your life either.

If you can’t trust your parents, your siblings, your partner, and your friends to stay in your life forever then whom can you trust? Probably no one. You have to learn to be on your own and live with yourself. And cherish the time spent with your parents, your siblings, your partner, and your friends when they are still in your life. I know its a bit morbid, but its something that you should always be aware of anyway. After all everything has to come to an end.

Thankfully, endings are usually much less macabre than death, but they will always come even in healthy relationships: Someone moves away, your work buddy gets a new assignment, your friend from arts and crafts club finds new interests. Even romantic relationships will end at some point, but we tend to forget that when we give the “happily ever after” cop out. The only people who you would expect to stick with you in the long run would be your parents and siblings, but again, see point above.

I trust the people I love with a lot of things, but can’t trust them to stay because that’s impossible. Life moves on even when we don’t want it to, and that’s just one of the ways life is unavoidably hard. At the very least, there is solace in the fact that all of us are united in this pain. This can come off as depressing, so I would encourage you not to look too much at the end. Time is short, so spend the time you can spare with the people you care about. Remember, the end is nigh! …so make the most of what little you have now. Cheers!