To trust or not to trust ??

To trust or not to trust ??

This is from one of my previous coaching conversations

My client is a business leader from the financial services industry

The session was focused on relationships at workplace

“My team members don’t open up to me very easily”?he started off

“I hear about their challenges from other people, but for some strange, they don’t approach me”?he continued

“What could be the reason behind this?”?I asked him

He paused and thought for a moment

“Probably they don’t trust me enough?”?he tentatively responded

“Hmm…so what do you want them to do?”?I further probed

“I want them to trust me”?he answered

As you can see from this conversation, while the core issue was?lack of trust, my client was actually trying to project as if it was not his problem

As if, it was the problem of his team members and?they need to do something about it

You see….

Trust is a 2-way street

Your teams have to deliver, be transparent and be accountable

No questions about it

But what is your role in building trust with your team members ?

That is the question you should ask yourself

Because it is not just about them. It is about YOU as a leader

Look....

When it comes to trust, you can have 3 different approaches :

First Approach

You trust people by default. You start off with trusting others 100%

You don’t unnecessarily doubt them

You believe that people will do what they are supposed to do on their own

You believe that people are trustworthy?till they prove otherwise

However, if they break your trust, then you can take a tough stand. The?onus then,?shifts on them to win your trust back

Second Approach

You don’t trust people to begin with. You start off with 0% trust

You doubt people by default

They have to win your trust over a period of time

You assume that people are not trustworthy?till they prove otherwise

This could be based on your own insecurities and past experiences

There is no right or wrong approach – it all depends on your leadership style and experiences

Now in both the above cases,?you don’t have to take any action as such

All you need to do is be clear of your stand and act accordingly

The third and probably the most difficult approach

You assume that people don’t trust you and YOU need to win their trust

I say that this is difficult because now,?you have to take action

You have to win people’s trust by your behavior, your actions and your words

You need to do what you say

And you need to say what you mean

Your intention should be very clear

All your actions and decisions should be aligned towards that intention

You need to be genuine. You need to be authentic

And you need to continue doing the hard work?till your people start trusting you

So the real question to ask yourself is:

“What can I do to win the trust of my people?”

Infact, this is equally applicable in personal relationships as well, right ?

“What can I do to build trust in my relationships?”

So here’s your weekly reflection on trust:

1) What is your default position, when it comes to trusting others ?

-Do you trust them by default ?

-Do you not trust them by default ?

-Do you try to win people’s trust ?

2) When it comes to building relationships, what is your biggest challenge in creating trust ?

3) Is there any specific relationship ( personal or professional ) which you would like to work on ?

4) If yes, what are you willing to do about it ? What action can you take immediately ?

5) How far are you willing to go to win trust in that relationship ?

Do share your thoughts as you engage in this reflection

And if you are struggling to build trust in relationships and need support, drop me a note or book your exploratory call here (Book Your Call) !

Till then

Stay safe and stay healthy

Harsh

www.harshjohari.com

Vinod Dahake

Retires Scientist G & Scientist In charge MERADO Ludhiana CSIR / CMERI and Ex Commander (Indian Navy)

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