True Love so Painful

Well. Because you dedicated yourself with some expectations. There is no need to your gf/bf as like you.

No one in the world is impeccable.

Without pain, nothing is available.

The one who makes you the happiest that one can hurt you the most.

If you like someone, you can't see her with anyone else.

If you love someone, you can’t see him /her with anyone else.

Love is good until it’s going to breakup.

Love is amiable until it’s become excruciating.

Love is captivating until both are genuine.

Don’t get sad if you are rejected by someone.

People always reject the expensive things because they can't afford that.

Keep serene!!!

True love hurts.

Makes you think—great marriages are not easy marriages.

Strong love is not feel-good love, even though sometimes it does feel good. Strong love is love that stays open, admits fault, assumes the best, reaches across says, “I’m hurt…” and keeps coming home.

Love is hard. But love stays close.

There are LOTS of different types of love & there are LOTS of different degrees of love.

When you say fake love, do you mean infatuation or lust?

Or do you mean the type of love like, “if I lose you I don’t give a damn” type of love?

To me fake love is lust or infatuation. The “if I lose you, I don’t give a damn” type of love is love, but it’s not true love.

When it’s TRUE LOVE, you WILL know when it hurts you. You CANNOT avoid the pain from TRUE LOVE.

I know people say that nothing will hurt you, if you don’t let it, but that is NOT true because every single person in the world has emotions & feeling & not 1 single person in the world can control their own emotions & feelings.

If we could control our emotions & feelings then there would be no such things as depression, Bipolar, Borderline Personality Disorder or ANY other type of mental disorder, because everybody would control their degrees of happiness & they would be 100% happy ALL the time without even having to actually choose it.

When you truly love somebody & you spend a great time with them & the 2 of you become accustomed to each other you create a bond with them.

When that bond is broken, in my opinion, if the person is still living but won’t speak to you or have anything to do with you, that type of broken bonded relationship hurts worse than the type of broken bonded relationship where the other person passes away, because if the other person passes away, there’s closure there.

If the other person is alive but won’t speak to you or have anything to do with you then there’s no type of closure there, so you’ll always wonder what happened & why the relationship failed.

If it’s not true love, you won’t feel that bond.

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Thank you …Love is painful, because it creates the way for joy, for bliss and for compassion.

Love is painful, because it transforms you.

Love is growth.

Love itself does not hurt. It is growth that hurts, the ego that stings.

Each transformation is painful because the old situation is being left behind for the new. For example, when a relationship ends we feel hurt, our hopes and dreams have crashed and we feel lost and lonely, wondering what comes next.

Fear arises because the unknown is in front of us, and the mind usually assumes the negative, saying things like,

"I'll never meet anyone else,"

"I'm too old/overweight/unattractive" or "I don't have time for a new relationship."

The temptation is to shut down, open that bag of potato chips, pour that glass of wine, turn on the TV and give up on love.

Love doesn’t hurt you.

A person that doesn’t know how to love hurts you.

Don’t get it twisted.

I think Love is the most incredible thing in the world — but when people lie, cheat, and betray our trust, we become bitter, we blame love — we start losing hope in love.

The worst part about the heartbreak is that we lose ourselves trying to hold on to that person who doesn’t care at all.

We start saying “I am afraid to fall in love because I don’t want to get hurt”

So what to do?

First you might talk to those hurting you; tell them what’s bothering you since they can’t read your mind and may be unaware of how you feel.

This may be the problem. It is hard to understand each other when we do talk with them, and that much harder still when we don’t.

Yet communication is only a starting point and has its drawbacks–you can’t talk everything out.

Love is painful because it creates the way for bliss.

Love is painful because it transforms.

Love is mutation. Each transformation is going to be painful because the old has to be left for the new.

The old is familiar, secure, safe, the new is absolutely unknown. You will be moving in an uncharted ocean. 

You cannot use your mind with the new’ with the old, the mind is skilful. The mind can function only with the old’ with the new, the mind is utterly useless.

Want to add word or two? 

Hence, fear arises, and leaving the old, comfortable, safe world, the world of convenience, pain arises.

It is the same pain that the child feels when he comes out of the womb of the mother.

It is the same pain that the bird feels when he comes out of the egg. It is the same pain that the bird will feel when he will try for the first time to be on the wing.

And because the transformation is going to be from the self towards a state of no-self, agony is very deep.

But you cannot have ecstasy without going through agony. If the gold wants to be purified, it has to pass through fire.

Your comment ….? 

Love is fire.

It is because of the pain of love, millions of people live a loveless life.

They too suffer, and their suffering is futile. To suffer in love is not to suffer in vain.

To suffer in love is creative’ it takes you to higher levels of consciousness.

To suffer without love is utterly a waste’ it leads you nowhere, it keeps you moving in the same vicious circle.

Relationship is a mirror, and the purer the love is, the higher the love is, the better the mirror, the cleaner the mirror.

But the higher love needs that you should be open. The higher love needs you to be vulnerable..

Love is an open sky. To be in love is to be on the wing. But certainly, the unbounded sky creates fear.

Love is a ladder. It starts with one person, it ends with the totality.

Love is the beginning,

God is the end.

To be afraid of love, to be afraid of the growing pains of love, is to remain enclosed in a dark cell.

Modern man is living in a dark cell’ it is narcissistic. Narcissism is the greatest obsession of the modern mind.

Love creates problems. You can avoid those problems by avoiding love.

But those are very essential problems! They have to be faced, encountered’ they have to be lived and gone through and gone beyond.

And to go beyond, the way is through.

Love is the only real thing worth doing. All else is secondary

If it helps love, it is good. All else is just a means, love is the end.

So whatsoever the pain, go into love.

Real love allows you to be who you really are.

Love will require you to change.

And while it’s normal to work on some of the oddities that annoy your true love; real love allows you to be authentically yourself.

This means who you are at your core, not the persona you might be inclined to wear.

Real love allows you the freedom to express yourself and grow as a human being.