The True Cost of Doubting Yourself: Part I

Have you ever heard of imposter syndrome? It occurs when outwardly successful people doubt themselves and their accomplishments.?

Many people suffer from it. Sometimes, only for a short time.?

However, many suffer from it their whole lives.?

Is Self-Doubt the Work of the Devil?

People feel they’re not good enough for the position they have achieved in life. They don’t think they deserve it. Furthermore, they are sure their success won’t last and they’ll never be able to repeat it.

They look down on themselves.?

Critical inner judging is in the same house as self-doubt. Harshly judging yourself is unfair to you and to others around you. In fact, people who unfairly judge themselves may judge others-family members, friends and co-workers.?

For some people, there is a whole committee of negative voices in their head that robs them of being in the flow. These voices are judging, being critical, doubting and constantly chattering away at them.?

If you have that committee in your head, you need to ignore those voices. They will rob you of your inner peace. They’ll replace your inner peace with inner suffering.?

And, often, when you are suffering inside, you inflict suffering, intentionally or not, on the people who surround you.?

Remember, self-doubt is the ego trying to protect itself. What you need is for the ego to get out of bed every morning with you, and put in the work.?

If We Doubt Ourselves, We Limit Ourselves?

The good news is that when you doubt yourself, there is a way out.?

Remember, we all have a higher purpose. We are all here on this planet to accomplish something. Whether that is being a parent, or caretaker, or creator, or leader of men and women...we all have something we are destined for. Even if it’s small, like being the best breakfast burrito maker in your zip code, do not underestimate the power of what you have to offer.

You may not know what that looks like right now, but it’s easy to start investigating your higher purpose. To begin, ask yourself the following questions:

1. What’s your philosophy on life?
2. If you were to teach a child one thing, what would it be?
3. What cause or philanthropy are you drawn to?
4. If you could accomplish one thing before you died, what would it be?
5. What do you want your legacy to be?

If you get a moment...please take a moment to leave a comment below with an answer to one of these questions. =)

If you start with these questions...then you will be one step closer to finding your higher purpose (HP). In a moment of need, like a Batman signal in the night, that HP could help one overcome any doubt, fear, and anguish that holds them back.??

The payoff is tremendous and in some instances, everything is riding upon the ability to tap into one’s higher purpose.?

More to discuss on the topic. For now, what do you believe is your higher purpose?

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Melinda coaches a range of clients-those in transition, those needing a thought partner and those needing more tools in their toolbox.?

She also coaches people who experience self-doubt. She gets them to acknowledge their feelings of self- doubt and overcome them so they can live the life meant for them.?

Her experience as a practicing psychotherapist allows her to discover her clients’ blind spots, which helps them shed a light on the hidden aspects of their personality that need fine tuning.?

Melinda is in Carbondale, Colorado. You can reach her at 970-274-3130 or via email. You can get on her calendar here.