The Trouble With "More"
Terry Martin-Back
Realtor, Property Management, Association Management, Contractor, Trainer, Speaker, Cyclist, and Combat Veteran
Amelia blinked, momentarily startled by the chime of her seventh notification in ten minutes. Her phone pulsed accusingly on the table, a bottomless well of news, social media updates, and cat videos vying for her attention. Across from her, a plate of untouched salad grew limp under the harsh fluorescent lights of the fast-food joint. A commercial blared on the overhead screen, advertising a new burger with a quadruple patty and a side of onion rings the size of tires. Amelia sighed, the mental tug-of-war between health and indulgence a constant battle in the age of "More."
Back in the day, Amelia remembered, there were three channels on TV, and dinner was a family affair, a time for conversation and connection, not choosing between a documentary on the mating habits of penguins or the latest reality show. The phone, a clunky brick in her purse, held the sole purpose of making calls. Now, it was a portal to a world of endless entertainment, a productivity tool that somehow morphed into a master of procrastination.
The urge to scroll through her endless social media feed was a constant itch. Perfectly curated lives filled her screen, a constant reminder of all she wasn't doing, all she wasn't achieving. The pressure to "keep up" with the highlight reels of others was a heavy weight, a thief of Amelia's present moment.
Frustration bubbled. Pushing the untouched salad aside, Amelia reached for her phone, the allure of a quick dopamine hit too strong to resist. But as she unlocked the screen, a notification popped up – a news article about the negative effects of excessive screen time. Amelia paused, a tiny seed of rebellion taking root. With a deep breath, she silenced her phone and pushed it away. Looking at the wilted salad, she decided on a different kind of "More." More focus on her own well-being, more connection with the real world, more present moments. It wouldn't be easy, but in the age of "More," perhaps "Less" was the truer path to happiness. Which didn’t last for long.
The siren song of "More" wasn't confined to Amelia's personal life. It weaved its way into her professional life as well. Her job, once a place of focused productivity, had become a battleground against the constant barrage of distractions. Every ping, every buzz on her work computer was a tiny hammer blow to her concentration. Emails piled up in her inbox, each one demanding immediate attention, each subject line screaming "URGENT" in bold red. Suddenly, a coworker popped in with a "quick question" that morphed into a twenty-minute conversation about the latest celebrity gossip. Just as Amelia was about to dive back into her work, a notification popped up on her work chat – a seemingly harmless meme. A single click later, she found herself lost in a rabbit hole of hilarious work memes, the minutes ticking by unnoticed.
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The pressure to be "always on" was another aspect of the "More" problem. The ability to work remotely blurred the lines between work and personal life. Emails arrived at all hours, demanding an immediate response. The concept of "off the clock" seemed like a relic of a bygone era. Exhausted and overwhelmed, Amelia found herself constantly behind, a victim of the endless demands for "More" productivity in "Less" time.
One particularly chaotic day, after a near breakdown trying to juggle five different tasks at once, Amelia finally said "Enough." She silenced all notifications on her work computer, except for urgent messages from her boss. She set clear boundaries with her colleagues, politely but firmly requesting they schedule meetings instead of impromptu drop-ins. Most importantly, she instituted a "no phone" policy during work hours, locking it away in her drawer.
The first few days were a struggle. The urge to check her phone, to peek at her email, was a constant temptation. But slowly, a sense of calm settled in. She was able to focus on one task at a time, completing projects with a newfound efficiency. The quality of her work improved, and to her surprise, her colleagues seemed to respect her boundaries.
Amelia realized that in the age of "More," sometimes "Less" was the key to unlocking productivity and well-being. It was a constant battle, a daily choice to resist the allure of distractions. But with each victory, she felt a sense of empowerment, a quiet joy in reclaiming her time and attention. The path to success, she discovered, wasn't paved with "More," but with intentionality and a commitment to focus on what truly mattered.
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