No Trespassing | Say No to Domestic Violence

In this series, "Healing for the Inner Child," we dive deep into how our past experiences, particularly childhood traumas, can silently and subtly influence our present behaviors and decisions. Through my personal journey guided by the Holy Spirit, we witness how healing and restoration unfold in our spirits, souls, and bodies, ultimately leading to holistic transformation in various aspects of our lives.

Today, I want to share my journey of overcoming domestic violence and the profound healing that followed. Although my experience with domestic violence lasted only two years, its aftermath was deeply traumatic. It took several years of healing and restoration to overcome the emotional scars and wounds inflicted during that time. Even after a decade of leaving that abusive relationship, I still grappled with a lingering fear, imagining scenarios where my abuser might find me alone and defenseless.

After I became a follower of Jesus Christ, I embarked on a journey of inner healing and spiritual deliverance guided by the Holy Spirit. I repeatedly verbalized forgiveness and blessings towards my abuser. I even resolved that if I ever needed to confront him, I would do so with forgiveness in my heart and be prepared to share the gospel. I thought I had been completely healed. Yet, a few weeks ago, an unexpected anger surfaced, leading to a revelation about the underlying emotions I had yet to fully process.

During a women’s retreat, with the help of a facilitator, I uncovered the root cause of my anger—I was reliving the feelings of powerlessness and helplessness from the domestic violence. I vividly recalled moments when my autonomy was stripped away, leaving me confined until I yielded to the abuser’s will. I had attempted to seek help, but only to face indifference. Back then, I did not have a strong support system. My parents were not able to protect me due to their own struggles. I did not have close friends who could advocate for me either.

Many may wonder why victims don’t simply leave abusive relationships. The reality is that abusers exploit our vulnerabilities, employing manipulation and coercion to maintain control. Despite my education and professional success, I was made to feel worthless and responsible for the abuse I endured. Even when I discovered his infidelity , he twisted the truth to make me believe it was my fault.?

The cycle of abuse— tension, incident, reconciliation, and calm—kept me blinded and trapped until a moment of clarity broke through. One morning, I somehow woke up with a strong desire to change my life and came up with a clear plan: cut off all communication, change jobs, and move home to get out of the abusive relationship. I believe it was through divine intervention that I found the strength to break free. Though I faced threats and lingering fears, I persevered. Eventually, the abuser shifted target and moved on, sparing me from further torment.

However, the trauma persisted, leading to deep-rooted fear that lingered for years. It wasn’t until that transformative morning at the women’s retreat that I experienced true liberation. Guided by the facilitator and the Holy Spirit, I revisited painful memories and even questioned where was God during those dark times. Suddenly, a powerful vision unfolded before me: Jesus appeared with authority, drawing me to His right side and firmly signaling “No” to my abuser with His left hand. He established a protective boundary around me, marking it with a resolute sign of “No Trespassing”.

This profound encounter instantly released me from the anger and fear that had held me captive for so long. I felt an immerse sense of security surrounding me, reaffirming that I was never alone. This experience also unveiled the timeless and omnipresent nature of God's intervention in our lives, transcending the limitations of time and space.

Today, I stand healed and restored, surrounded by a supportive community that includes spiritual leaders, friends, and reconciled family relationships. I no longer live in fear, for I am embraced by God’s love and shielded by His protection. My journey from victim to overcomer is a testament to the healing power of faith and community.

As I am empowered to advocate against domestic violence, my message to survivors is clear: God sees your pain and waits for your invitation to intervene, bringing healing and restoration to your worth. If you are struggling with domestic violence or its aftermath, I urge you to invite God into your healing journey, allowing Him to transform your pain into strength. For personal prayers or encouragement, please feel free to reach out to me at [email protected].

Kingdom builders, I appeal to you to raise awareness and take action against domestic violence. Many suffer in silence, and it is our collective responsibility to advocate for their safety and well-being. Together, let us say “No” to domestic violence and extend compassion and support to those in need.

Thank you so much for your time and support! May God continue to envelop you with abundant love, grace, favor, wisdom, and strength as you navigate the path toward healing and restoration.

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God bless you! I will talk to you in my next post soon!

In His Love,

Mingshi Mina Cai

May 1st, 2024

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