Transition Anxiety

Transition Anxiety

There seems to be a new anxiety disorder named every month. Have you heard of Transition Anxiety?

Also known as change anxiety, this occurs when we face significant changes in our lives that push us out of our comfort zones and into unfamiliar territory. This may happen for either personal or professional reasons: indeed, many people find themselves experiencing multiple transitions at once. Hello Anxiety!


Change and Self-Esteem

For people who run their lives on the basis of self-esteem (as I did for much of my life), change is OK as long as we feel we are somehow making progress and will eventually “come out on top”. Typical examples of this type of change: new job, promotion, first weeks in a new country, new relationship etc.? Yes, we find ourselves in new territory, but we intuitively feel that we are winning at the game of life. So change is exciting and we feel good about ourselves.

However… many people are currently experiencing a more troubling form of transition; characterised by uncertainty, self-doubt and anxiety.? Examples: redundancy or the threat of it, new country after the honeymoon has worn off, relationship uncertainty, empty-nest and for quite a few people, retirement or impending retirement (particularly if this is involuntary).?

With these transitions, your self-esteem takes a hit. You have cast off from one bank of the river and you are not yet sure where the opposite bank of the river is. Your little boat is tossing and turning in different directions, particularly when multiple transitions are happening together.?

That’s transition anxiety. It’s often accompanied by confusion, loss of reference points, uncertainty, self-doubt, loss of motivation, depression, social isolation, mood swings, compulsive addictions and loss of hope in the future.?

All of this can provoke a crisis of self-esteem, which in turn diminishes a person’s capacity to deal with change. Just when they most need their self-reliance, that belief in themselves seems to desert them.?

Self-Worth during Transition

During these turbulent times, deep roots of self-worth are especially valuable. An unconditional sense of loyal friendship with yourself enables you to survive and thrive during tough times. For example:

  • Your self-belief is not based on your achievement or performance; therefore, loss of external reference points does not deprive you of your identity.

  • You recover swiftly from setbacks, because you know the setback is not about you. Therefore, you avoid the unnecessary burden of self-reproach i.e. blaming yourself for what happened, or didn’t happen, or where you “should be at this point of life”.

  • You can look outwards towards where the needs are, rather than inwards in endless introspection. This helps to uncover new opportunities.

  • You communicate in more engaging ways. Your focus is on being interest-ed rather than just trying to be interest-ing.?

  • You can ask for help when you need it, without worrying too much about “what this says about me”

  • You take care of yourself, which includes honest acknowledgement of what you might need right now.

  • … and lots more. For example, I haven’t even touched on how self-worth helps to spark fresh creativity, which is a great asset in times of transition.


Self-worth in Anxious Times

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Chris Curtis

Experienced senior manager with expert strategic, operational, and HR knowledge in scheduled and unscheduled NHS primary care.

1 周

I was initially confused by this post. The opening line made me think it was leading into something that might mock anxieties. After reading on, I can see that it’s not. It appears it might be something to help people understand the reasons behind their feelings during times of change and uncertainty. Without looking in-depth, I wonder if transition anxiety is a new name for the emotional cycle of change?

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Michael Wilton-Cox

Non Executive Director/Chairman. Specialises in Corporate Governance, Board & Business restructuring, Risk Management. Mentor.

1 周

My goodness, what a generation of wimps we have produced! Everyone suffers from anxiety when certain things happen, and change is one at the top of the list. We just get on with it and usually realise once change has happened, that things have worked out.

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