Transforming your Relationship with Money

Picture a global retail chain with hundreds of staff worldwide and dozens of employees, or a factory that sources from suppliers in 10 different countries - each a microcosm of the corporate, global economy. What’s the one thing they all need consistent access to? Cash. This basic need lies at the heart of a transformative rush for liquidity as the economic platform collapses. But it’s not just global entities but also individuals who are trying to fathom the new money map. 

Bondage to Consumer Culture 

I think we’re bonded to our idea of wealth — even though it isn’t working for us or the planet — because of the very nature of our relationship with money. We expect money to fulfil our fantasies, calm our fears, ease our pain and send us soaring to fleeting heights of gratification. In fact, we are programmed to think most of our wants and desires are met by money. We buy everything from hope to happiness. We no longer live life, we consume it. 

Transforming our relationship with money and reevaluating our emotional frequency patterns around money could put us and the planet back on track. We need to learn from our past, gain clarity on our present and create a new, reality-based relationship with money, discarding assumptions that don’t work. How do we do that? I’ll tell you: We change our money frequency. 

The frequency of Money 

If you’re feeling anxious, fearful or depressed about money you’re practicing a habit that comes from decades of being programmed that there is not enough. The industrial revolution scarcity is what drove the markets. That’s what supply and demand was all about. 

But, we’re now moving into a digitally abundant world where the emotional state behind money and the access to anything we want, be it music, information or knowledge, is abundant. In order to shift this frequency we need to practice letting go of the trio of scarcity and replacing them with the emotional frequency of excitement, east and love. 

So how do we do this? Well, you take the time to tap into your money storyline and you ask yourself why you have this feeling towards money? What has it ever done to you? What has someone told you about money which you still carry with you? Were you told money was at the root of all evil or that it didn’t grow on trees. This self-examination and practice of reaching the energetic frequency of money is what will create a new roadmap for the future. 

The beginning of a new road map for money 

There is a word that provides the basis for transforming our relationship with money. It’s a word we use every day, yet we are practically incapable of recognizing it. The word is ‘enough’. Enough for our continuous survival. When we recognise that we have everything we need, there’s nothing extra to weigh us down. It’s appreciating and fully enjoying what money brings into our lives and yet never buying excess.  

So what’s all that stuff beyond enough? It’s whatever you have that doesn’t serve you, yet takes up space in your world. Discard it and allow the space for new ideas to enter and your frequency to be elevated. 

Using the word ‘relationship’ in a sentence with money may sound odd, because it’s not alive. Or is it? I believe we’re choosing to trade our life energy for it. We are giving life energy to what we’re doing so we can earn and then use it. That’s why money sparks emotions like fear, guilt 

and avoidance or excitement, joy and abundance. So while money has no reality our life energy does.  

Financial Intention

It’s about where to direct your income. This is achieved by learning the true impact of your earning and spending, both on your immediate family and on the planet. It is knowing what is enough money and material goods to keep you at the peak of fulfillment — and what is just excess and clutter.  

Financial Cadence 

For this financial energy you first need to know how much money you already have earned, what you have to show for it. In other words how much is coming into your life and how much is going out. 

But that isn’t enough. You also need to know what money really is and what you are trading the money in your life for. One tangible outcome of cadence is getting out of debt and having at least six months of basic living expenses in the bank.  

Financial Container 

Your financial container is the vessel you mentally hold for your income to sufficiently pay for your basic needs and comforts. Is it the size of a swimming pool or a goldfish bowl? It is also independent from crippling financial beliefs, debt, and an inability to manage modern conveniences. Financial independence is an experience of freedom at a psychological level. You are free of the guilt, resentment, envy, frustration and despair you have felt about money issues. 

Financial Independence has nothing to do with wealth. Financial Independence is the experience of having enough — and more.  

What do we have to show for it? 

If the daily grind is making us happy, the sacrifices and inconveniences would be worthwhile. But for most people that’s not the case and there’s the increasingly destructive effect on the environment. So, this is how we transform our financial health radically, 

1. Start by making peace with where you are now.  

Appreciate what you have. Find small ways to be generous. If you’d told me this when I filed for bankruptcy in my 20’s I would have rolled my eyes. I was way more concerned with the bottom line of my bank account, than rewiring my brain. Now after two decades of growing my business into a highly profitable, socially conscious company I can look back and see how changing my beliefs about money changed everything. 

2. True wealth depends on your money frequency 

Your “money mindset” is simply your set of beliefs — usually subconscious — about money. It’s the way you approach earning, saving, spending, and sharing in your life. 

3. Build Your Knowledge Bank

Learn how to manage your money . It’s one of the most empowering things you can do. Develop basic financial knowledge, like how to get out of debt, build an emergency fund, and manage your credit card bills every month. This sets you up for success no matter how much you’re bringing in or how much you’re spending. 

While it’ll take a while before these new approaches trickle through the new world, there’s no doubt in my mind that we’ve fast tracked our money mindfulness. If you take the time to take stock, reflect on your spending patterns and the way you feel about money, you will transform into the wealth magnet you were always meant to be, but the way you use it could have fundamentally shifted.