Transforming Teams: Combating Toxic Leadership and Fostering Growth

This week we tackle the issue of why talented employees leave a company.

The answer often lies in toxic leadership. My first experience with toxic leadership was in the military. Some of the best and worst leaders I’ve known were there. Early promotions based on points, not skill, often led to unqualified leaders. Over the years, I’ve heard countless stories of people leaving the military due to poor leadership. People don't quit bad companies, they quit bad bosses.

Recognizing that a bad boss might be the root cause of high turnover can take years. It’s tough to see the issues clearly when you’re inside the situation, which is why seeking outside perspectives is invaluable. Building trust and integrity as a leader takes years, but turning a blind eye to toxic behavior can destroy it almost instantly.

Being stuck under a bad boss can feel like you’re up against a wall with no way out. This is just a season, not forever. Focusing on self-leadership and setting healthy boundaries can help you navigate through this period.

Practical tips to help you thrive:

• Imagine your lantern represents your flame. Protecting it with strong walls ensures it remains illuminated even in the face of adversity.
• Use simple phrases like, “Don’t speak to me that way, please,” to uphold your boundaries.
• Maintain your own standards of excellence and seek out mentors or supportive colleagues to stay motivated and productive.

Step-by-Step Plan to Address Toxic Leadership

1. Recognize the Signs: Pay attention to high turnover rates, low employee engagement, and negative feedback from team members.
2. Build Trust and Integrity: Consistently communicate with your team, address concerns promptly, and lead by example.
3. Set Clear Boundaries: Establish what behaviors are acceptable and what are not, and enforce these standards consistently.
4. Focus on Employee Appreciation: Regularly acknowledge and celebrate your team’s contributions to boost morale and engagement.

Self-Reflection Questions:

• How can I better recognize and address toxic leadership within my team?
• What boundaries can I set to protect my well-being and maintain my motivation?
• How can I appreciate and recognize the efforts of my team members more effectively?

Recommended Books/Articles:

• "The Culture Code: The Secrets of Highly Successful Groups" by Daniel Coyle - Discover the secrets behind some of the world's most successful organizations and learn how to build a strong, cohesive culture within your team. The Culture Code on Amazon
• "Radical Candor: Be a Kick-Ass Boss Without Losing Your Humanity" by Kim Scott - Learn how to care personally and challenge directly to create a more open, honest, and effective workplace. Radical Candor on Amazon
• "Leadershift: The 11 Essential Changes Every Leader Must Embrace" by John C. Maxwell - Explore the crucial shifts that leaders need to make to stay relevant and continue to grow in today's fast-paced world. Leadershift on Amazon

Downloadable Resources:

• E-book “Extinguish - How to Stop Fighting Fires At Work by Ben Killoy” - Explore why we often find ourselves in a constant state of emergency and learn powerful strategies to extinguish these fires, paving the way for a future of calm, effective leadership. Discover how heart-centered leadership can end burnout and transform your approach to team management. Download for FREE

Leadership Quote

“The art of communication is the language of leadership.” - James Humes

Keep pushing boundaries and inspiring those around you. Remember, leadership is about making others better as a result of your presence and ensuring that impact lasts in your absence. Stay tuned for the next issue, where we will dive into a concept I call “be the Chief Road Plower.”

Connect and Engage:

What’s your biggest leadership challenge right now? Comment below and let me know. Your insights could help others facing similar issues.

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