Transforming Relationships: The Unexpected Power of the Enneagram

As a communication and Enneagram coach, I recently facilitated a couples retreat that left a lasting impression on me. While I’ve always believed in the transformative power of the Enneagram, witnessing its impact firsthand on couples was an eye-opening and deeply rewarding experience.

The retreat focused on improving communication and strengthening the foundations of each couple’s relationship. Teaching the Enneagram became the centerpiece of our work, as it helped couples uncover how their unique communication styles influence their dynamics. (I call this increasing your Communications Intelligence -?one’s ability to effectively communicate with others. “CQ”? is measured by one’s ability to recognize their own communication style and the ability to connect effectively to varied audience styles). More importantly, it gave them tools to understand their partner’s communication style and needs—allowing them to build bridges across their differences rather than being divided by them.

Differences in Communication Style Not Just Differences

One couple, for instance, realized how the husband’s action-oriented and solution-driven communication style sometimes left his wife, who values emotional depth, feeling unheard. By understanding their Enneagram types, they learned to slow down, meet each other’s needs, and truly listen. Another pair discovered how the wife’s fear of conflict was leading to avoidant behaviors, which unintentionally created distance. Through the Enneagram, they found a way to engage in constructive conversations without fear or defensiveness.

These moments of clarity didn’t just improve communication—they helped the couples align on their shared goals, whether that meant better parenting, reigniting intimacy, or pursuing a shared dream. The Enneagram became the common language that allowed them to see and value each other more fully.

Unexpected Impact

For me, this experience highlighted the profound impact of teaching the Enneagram in key relationships. My impact s generally in professional relationships. The retreat? reminded me that no matter the players, communication challenges need powerful tools for transformation. This retreat reignited my passion to share the Enneagram with more people, so they too can experience the joy and connection that comes from truly understanding their partner.

The Relationship Advantage for You

I’m excited to invite you to a complimentary workshop, The Relationship Advantage, where you’ll get a taste of this powerful tool. Join me on Tuesday, February 4, 2025, at 6 PM MST to learn how the Enneagram can improve communication, reduce stress, and help you build a stronger foundation for your relationship. Register here.