Transforming Postpartum Challenges into Opportunities for Growth

How to Make Postpartum Time Productive and Balanced?

The postpartum period is a transformative phase filled with both challenges and joys. Every mother experiences significant changes within her body, mind, wardrobe, and lifestyle. These changes often bring uncertainty, with many mothers worrying about their careers and futures. It’s common to feel numb, to believe you lack skills, or to struggle with communication. Postpartum cognitive difficulties, often referred to as "mommy brain," are a real phenomenon.

The fact is that "mommy brain" is real, though probably not in the sense you believe. Subjective memory loss is reported by about 80% of pregnant or new parents (Zapata & Taylor, 2024). However, brain scans show that neurological changes during pregnancy and the postpartum period may enhance parenting skills and are not always linked to cognitive function.

Returning to work after postpartum can feel like an incredible feat. You are not the same person you were before. You may lack self-confidence or feel as though you’ve forgotten how to do your job, regardless of your previous experience. If you're struggling at work after maternity leave, you're not alone: a 2023 study found over a third of working mothers found returning to work "harder than expected."(McCormack et al., 2023).

Despite these challenges, it is possible to stay productive during postpartum. I know you’re probably wondering staying in a neat dress and without a messy hair bun is a big deal in itself, so let’s not even talk about being productive. Here, I share my experiences and strategies that helped me stay active and productive, confidently speak with my clients during meetings, and stay on track with emerging technologies and software. I hope these insights might help other women out there who are worrying about their career paths.

1. Listen to TEDx Talks and Inspirational Content

Most of us use our free time watching Instagram reels, so why not listen to something useful instead? Remember, you are what you listen to and what you see. Watch and listen to content that can improve your skills and boost self-confidence and communication. All those Instagram reels won’t help you in fact, they can make your brain rot. Switch to inspirational shows and podcasts that enrich your mindset.

2. Make a Habit of Reading

Whether digital or physical books, reading helps improve memory by increasing mental stimulation and allowing new neurons to form in the brain. The more you read, the easier it becomes to recall information. Reading also reduces stress and improves concentration levels. Make it a habit to read something each day, even if it’s just a few pages.

3. Schedule Time for Learning New Skills

If you’re someone who loves to learn, this point is for you. Finding time to learn something new during postpartum might seem hard, but it’s an investment in yourself. Even if it takes weeks or months, learning bit by bit can do wonders. This will give you an edge over colleagues when you return to work and keep you ahead in emerging technologies and trends.

4. Find friends who are career-oriented

Now this is an important point. During postpartum, you are really emotional. If you have a circle who mother-shames you and talks about unwanted family things, it is high time to cut off those people and find individuals who can inspire you and who can talk about positive topics. Surrounding yourself with career-oriented people will motivate you to stay focused on your goals. They can also provide valuable advice and encouragement to help you navigate the balance between work and motherhood.

5. Stop Comparing Yourself with Others

It’s natural, and somewhat inevitable, to compare ourselves with others, especially during the blissfully challenging postpartum chapter. We might wonder: How is everyone seemingly losing weight so quickly? Why are other babies sleeping better than mine? How do other moms stay active while juggling all these baby responsibilities? But remember, everyone’s life is different, and each person faces their own unique challenges. Comparing yourself to others won’t make any difference in your life; it will only waste your precious time. So, stop comparing and start focusing on your own progress. Celebrate your achievements, no matter how small, and embrace your own journey.

6. Embrace Flexibility

Newborns are unpredictable, and routines often change. Adopting a flexible mindset allows you to adapt to your baby’s needs while finding time for your own priorities. Instead of adhering strictly to a rigid schedule, create a flexible to-do list that can accommodate unexpected changes. Remember, flexibility reduces stress and helps you focus on what truly matters in the moment. Over time, this adaptability can build resilience and strengthen your problem-solving skills as a parent.

7. Prioritize Self-Care

Caring for yourself is essential for being the best version of yourself for your baby. Incorporate simple self-care routines like skincare, short walks, meditation, or even a quick nap. Feeling refreshed and recharged enhances your ability to handle the demands of motherhood. Remember, taking time for yourself isn’t selfish; it’s a necessity for your well-being.

8. Document Your Journey

Journaling or maintaining a digital diary can help you process emotions and preserve precious memories. Writing about milestones, challenges, and joyful moments creates a valuable keepsake and can be a therapeutic outlet for expressing your thoughts. Revisiting these entries in the future can serve as a reminder of your growth and resilience.

9. Explore Creative Outlets Creative activities like painting, knitting, or photography can provide a fulfilling break from routine caregiving tasks. These outlets not only offer relaxation but also result in tangible creations you can cherish or share with loved ones. Engaging in creativity can also help you reconnect with your individuality outside of motherhood.

10. Focus on Nutrition and Fitness

Proper nutrition and light exercise can significantly impact your physical and mental health during the postpartum period. Focus on nutrient-dense meals and consult a healthcare provider for postpartum-friendly exercises. Staying active can boost energy levels, improve mood, and help you regain a sense of control over your body. A healthy lifestyle sets a positive example for your child as they grow.

11. Practice Gratitude

Amidst the sleepless nights and endless diaper changes, take a moment to reflect on the blessings of this unique time. Practicing gratitude can shift your focus to the positive aspects of your journey, fostering a sense of fulfilment and contentment. Never let doubt creep into your mind about parenthood ruining your career or self-confidence. If you truly believe that a tiny 19-inch human could destroy your career, then trust me, nothing in this world is going to be easy for you. Parenthood responsibilities aren’t the obstacle using them as an excuse is. If you have the determination to grow, you will grow, regardless of the responsibilities you carry. Be grateful for the incredible opportunity to become a parent to this beautiful, tiny human. You are providing them with an entire new world, full of love and possibilities.

The postpartum period is a time of significant change, but with intentionality and balance, it can also be incredibly rewarding and productive. By focusing on what truly matters and giving yourself grace, you can make this phase a stepping stone toward a fulfilling and well-rounded life.

It's okay even if you are not productive; never feel you are less than others. Remember, you are nourishing a small human, helping them grow from zero knowledge to facing the world's challenges. Embrace each step with patience and love, because every moment you spend nurturing your child is a testament to your strength and resilience.

Postpartum is not just about navigating sleepless nights and endless diaper changes it’s about discovering the depth of your inner strength and the capacity of your heart. Allow yourself to celebrate the small victories, whether it’s a peaceful nap for your baby or a few quiet moments to yourself. You are creating memories and shaping a life, and that is a remarkable achievement. Be kind to yourself, cherish this journey, and know that every effort, no matter how small, is shaping a brighter future for both you and your child.

References

McCormack, C., Callaghan, B. L., & Pawluski, J. L. (2023, February 06). It’s Time to Rebrand “Mommy Brain.” JAMA Neurology. https://doi.org/10.1001/jamaneurol.2022.5180

Zapata, K., & Taylor, J. (Eds.). (2024, August 13). Does Your Brain Change During Pregnancy? Parents. https://www.parents.com/pregnancy/my-body/postpartum/mommy-brain-yes-its-a-thing/