Transformative Thinking
John Dunia
Guiding others on their journeys of Emotional Healing. Author of "Shame On Me". Guest speaker for emotional healing, shame, and personal development. Working one-on-one or small groups.
"A thorough look into our thought processes may reveal some hidden surprises."
The ability to quickly and correctly remember information we've learned is a different skill from that which uses reason and logic to make rational conclusions. However, what they both have in common is the capacity to think. From the first day of school, many encourage us to sharpen and maximize our brain power, knowing it will serve us well as we continue throughout life. Whether it's recalling facts on a history test or calculating a string of algebraic equations, most people work hard to be perceived as smart. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be intelligent. The perception alone often adds to one's credibility and is advantageous in many circumstances.
My five previous posts have all been centered around the thinking process and more specifically, continually questioning the substance, intent, and viability of those procedures and methods developed during our lifetime. Uncovering the errors and misconceptions of those processes can ultimately become gigantic moments of learning and self-development.
There are countless examples of how centuries-old scientific facts were proven incorrect. Some of these ancient and prehistoric truths are still debated today. Similarly, there have been many people whom history has highly praised yet further research has discovered some horrible attitudes and convictions about human rights and dignity. This is not a declaration nor admonition of anyone being wrong, it is simply pointing out that ideas, beliefs, and even facts, can and have changed.
One of the most frequent phrases repeated to my clients is: "Always ask questions. Answers may change but if the question is never asked, there's no need to seek the answers." Personally, I feel better when I've had a "transformative thinking" moment than when I spout some highly-regarded philosophical thought I've treasured for years.
Conviction and certainty in our own beliefs is something we all seek. It provides a sense of comfort and consistency in what has made us who we've truly become. However, it may also create a propensity to seek out others with likeminded ideals; leading to groupthink, exclusion and the feeling that everyone else disagreeing is completely wrong. Conversely, there are those who claim to be openminded yet may frequently dismiss points of view from those they perceive as narrowminded; which in and of itself, seems narrowminded.
The key is to constantly reexamine our thought processes. Be open to the possibility that change may be needed. There isn't anyone alive who hasn't had his or her mind changed about something. And merely asking a question does not demand the answer must change. Sometimes reevaluating our truths enhances our resolve and offers additional insights into why we believe the way we do.
In today's world rife with division, blame, and animosity, now more than ever it's important to repeatedly and relentlessly analyze our thinking processes. Are there any selfish motives behind our exclusionary wants? Do our efforts promoting goodwill mask self-aggrandizing intentions? They may or may not; but without asking the question, we may be refusing or denying the truth. Sometimes when we take an honest and sincere look at our own thinking processes, we may be surprised at what's been hiding.
My thanks to Ben White of Unsplash for the wonderfully fitting picture. I look forward to your comments.
Relationship Development Director at ATS | Executive Director at YAREN Organisation LTD | WASH consultant | Author of My Mistakes | Alumni: EAC Youth Fellowship 2023 | Peace Gong Fellowship 2024 | Speaker & PIT Trainer
5 年Nooooo! I can't wait this has really touch me and filling healed from my problems on thinking why most of youth companies always start well but few moment you find they are no longer again in the same team? Think for self-fish will encourage people to leave but goodness in the team by carrying each other may lead to a success within a critical thinking. John Dunia Thank you very much
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5 年A very poplular technique in use today is to not even allow the question to be asked because it is XXXXX (some expletive that indicates the questioner is something less than enlightened).?? This behavior makes the accused less likely to be interested in asking the question in the first place. This in turn reduces the amount of conversation allowed and actually had.? Sad, really.
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5 年As others have said, this article is timely - I think it's probably timely at any time because so many are thinking about how to grow and improve, especially here on LI. It seems that you write something each week that I can relate a very recent experience to.?? I've sought growth and been trying to figure out myself for quite some time now and I have been working with a person to help me grow in certain areas that I lack.? This person has helped me over the weekend to stop and think about things and made me begin to understand what drives certain behaviors of mine.?? After speaking, it seems so silly that? I didn't understand the drivers myself but I truly did not fully understand what was happening.? This weeks' homework is to identify triggers then begin to figure out what's driving them.?? So I take 2 things from that and your article which takes the learning a step further: 1.? You often need someone trustworthy to speak with to help you actually stop and think about how to figure out how and when to question yourself.?? 2.? Do think about the times when you feel frustration/blood pressure/your temperature rise and stop and take a minute to be honest with yourself about why. It's been said that each person's perception is their own reality.? Until we can understand another's point of view then decide whether ours should change or not, we can't really be open-minded. Great article again, John.? Thank you for including me in the notification for it.
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5 年Pleasure to read your thought process woven in words!?