The Transformative Power of Words: A Personal Journey

Growing up, I was often told by my own parents (of all people) that I wasn’t smart enough, capable enough, or destined for much. But don't worry, as I've mentioned before, it's less about adversity and more about resilience, showing how challenges were overcome. Even though those words echoed in my mind for years, shaping my beliefs about my abilities and potential, they made me stronger. It took countless struggles and pushing myself beyond limits, but I came to recognize the profound impact of words, both in our formative years and beyond.

The realization didn't dawn on me overnight. For years, I found myself caught in a cycle, challenging my own beliefs by setting high goals, achieving them, and yet feeling inadequate. It was a journey of self-discovery, filled with moments where I caught myself accomplishing things, I once deemed impossible.

In my personal life, I always remember that the words we use can either build or destroy someone. This week, as my daughter worked through her finals, I made it a daily point to remind her that she is smart and that she is capable. Each encouraging word aimed to counteract the negativity I had once absorbed. I am grateful that those negative experiences shaped how I interact and communicate with others, for the better.

In the workplace, I've come to understand the pivotal role words play. I've seen firsthand the difference between saying, "This won't work," versus, "Let's explore alternative solutions." Other examples include:

1. Instead of saying "You made a mistake," say "Let's learn from this and try a different approach next time."
2. Instead of "That's not good enough," say "I appreciate your effort. Let's work together to improve it."
3. Instead of "You're wrong," say "I see where you're coming from, but have you considered this perspective?"
4. Instead of "I can't help you with that," say "Let me find someone who can assist you."
5. Instead of "You should have known this," say "Let's review this together so you can understand it better."
6. Instead of "That's not your responsibility," say "I appreciate your willingness to help. Your primary focus is..."
7. Instead of "You're not meeting expectations," say "Here's how you can align with the goals more effectively."
8. Instead of "This will never work," say "Let's explore different approaches to make this successful."

Positive language isn't just about being polite; it's about nurturing a conducive environment for growth and fostering a culture of encouragement.

Moreover, I've learned the importance of acknowledging when something might be challenging for someone. Saying "It's not that hard" could undermine their struggle. Instead, recognizing their efforts and offering support can make a substantial difference. Understanding that what might be easy for one person could be a hurdle for another is crucial in providing the necessary assistance. Alternatively, their completion might not align with initial expectations, warranting a review rather than dismissal.

It took me years to dismantle the negative beliefs ingrained in me. It was a process of unlearning and relearning, replacing every self-doubt with self-assurance. I realized that the words I grew up hearing didn’t define me; instead, they served as hurdles to overcome. As I navigated through my own journey, I learned the importance of uplifting others. Encouraging a colleague, acknowledging their efforts, or providing constructive feedback can transform their outlook and performance.

I hope that you find yourself in rooms and spaces where your words and contributions are valued, and where they are nurtured to grow. Let's consciously choose words that build, inspire, and empower.

Let's be the change we wish to see by fostering an environment where everyone feels valued and capable, acknowledging challenges, and offering support.

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