The Transformational Habit: Embracing "What am I missing here?"

In the world of personal and professional growth, some habits can change the way we perceive and interact with the world. One such habit, born out of a momentous encounter with a client, is the act of asking, "What am I missing here?" This seemingly simple question holds the power to broaden our perspective, deepen our understanding, and transform the way we navigate the complexities of life.

A Pivotal Moment

Let's journey back to the day this habit took root. I found myself in a meeting with a client who was sharing his vision for a training program aimed at his team. As he delved into his frustrations, his words painted a picture of a team that lacked initiative, creativity, and enthusiasm. They appeared passive, and unresponsive to his leadership, and the weight of responsibility seemed solely on his shoulders.

As he spoke, I felt a growing discomfort in the room. His authoritative and dominant presence had a palpable effect on the atmosphere. It was easy to imagine how his team might have felt in his presence—overwhelmed, stifled, and hesitant to contribute.

I began to wonder how I could gracefully exit this situation, as the idea of facilitating training for this team and placing all the responsibility on their shoulders was daunting. It was in this moment of inner turmoil that my client did something remarkable. He paused, looked at me earnestly, and asked the simple yet powerful question: "Sarah, what am I missing here? Please tell me."

The Power of "What am I missing here?"

Those five words, "What am I missing here?" had an immediate and profound impact. They shattered the discomfort and opened a gateway to honest, authentic communication. Here's why embracing this habit can be transformative for you as well:

1. Broadening Perspectives

Asking this question invites diverse perspectives and alternative viewpoints into the conversation. It acknowledges that our understanding is not exhaustive, and there may be aspects we've overlooked. It's an invitation to explore the uncharted territory of another person's experiences and insights.

2. Fostering Empathy

When we ask, "What am I missing here?" we demonstrate empathy and a genuine desire to understand others better. It shows that we value their input and are willing to step into their shoes to gain a more holistic view of the situation.

3. Strengthening Relationships

This habit fosters stronger connections with those around us. It encourages open and transparent communication, allowing others to express themselves without fear of judgment. In turn, it nurtures trust and authenticity within relationships.

4. Enhancing Decision-Making

By seeking to uncover what we may have missed, we make more informed decisions. We reduce the risk of overlooking critical factors, and we create a more comprehensive foundation upon which to base our choices.

Incorporating the Habit

To make "What am I missing here?" a part of your daily life, consider these practical steps:

1. ?? Reflect: After any conversation or interaction, take a moment to pause and reflect on what you've heard and observed.
2. ?Ask the Question: When appropriate, ask the question: "What am I missing here?" This can be especially useful in situations where different perspectives may be at play.
3. ?? Listen Actively: Be an active listener when others share their insights. Pay attention to their words, emotions, and body language to gain a deeper understanding.
4. ?? Embrace Feedback: Welcome feedback and constructive criticism as opportunities to learn and grow. Encourage others to share their perspectives openly.

Conclusion

The habit of asking "What am I missing here?" is more than a question; it's a mindset. It embodies the spirit of curiosity, empathy, and a genuine willingness to connect with others on a deeper level. Just as it transformed my perspective in that pivotal moment with my client, it has the potential to reshape the way you navigate your personal and professional interactions.

So, as you go about your day, consider the power of this simple yet profound habit. Embrace it, and watch as it broadens your horizons, enriches your relationships, and enhances your decision-making. In the tapestry of life, "What am I missing here?" is the thread that weaves understanding, empathy, and growth into the fabric of our existence.

Last week, I did a LinkedIn Live about this question. Watch the recording here.

See you in my LinkedIn Live next week (every 2 weeks on Thursday AM)!

Sarah Cherif

www.skillsgym.com