Trade confidence for clarity

Trade confidence for clarity

As I prepare to conduct a seminar in Paris next week I reflect on a busy couple of months.

Recently, I have been receiving messages from a previous client (an entrepreneurial professional) I worked with earlier this year. She is ecstatic because her professional trajectory, which entails growing a business, has taken off.

Within a few months she secured media coverage with ITV news, The Times Radio, and The Face Magazine, was offered an NED role at a Higher Education Organization that influences Universities nationally (in the UK) and was asked to lead on a Mayor of London event in the Summer.?

Through our work together she learned a set of powerful distinctions.

Distinctions are like a computer software, once you upgrade them, there is no going back. You do not see the world in the same way again. And things begin to shift in imaginable ways.

Here are three counterintuitive insights you may find helpful:

  1. It is less about how much you know or do, and more about your willingness to take the path of most courage.

?Although we are often one conversation away - uncomfortable as it might seem - from a major pivot or breakthrough (career, business or otherwise), we tend to settle for the breadcrumbs of marginal improvement. We dedicate most of our time (weeks, months, even years) focusing on peripheral activity while avoiding what we should 'really' be doing. Accelerated momentum is not linear, not incremental and it manifests through the quality and depth of your 'right' conversations.

A 'right' conversation is not a habitual event. It can be a boundary that needs to be set, honouring a commitment, it is openly stating 'I care about you', a clean break-up, a new partnership, or ‘I’m in’! In other words, it is the stuff that feels uncomfortable and we mostly avoid.

Grey areas the most insidious obstacles to progress.

What 'right' conversation should you be having?

2. Confidence without clarity quickly turns into arrogance.

At a closer look this approach does more damage than good (long term) because it promotes fictitiously positive compulsivity (I'll take relentless action until the thing works, no matter the costs), over careful consideration and tactful intervention. It is about trading quantity for quality.

Clarity comes from slowing down, not from forcefully thrusting forward, particularly in a non-performative environment (in other words anything but professional sports where coaches, mentors and trainers support you each step of the way)

The good news is that you do not have to start from scratch. You are probably sitting on a tremendous amount of value already (your experience and achievements so far), and you just have to slow things down to reveal it.

What if you could be twice as impactful, in half the time, and having a great time along the way?

3. Learning to let go of outdated belief systems and assumptions unlocks tremendous vitality, focus, and accelerates personal impact.

It is not about adding 'stuff' or learning more, it is about removing the clutter.

Think of it as carrying a 100-pound invisible backpack for years on end. It might be great fitness training, yet you can only realise the benefits once you put it down. You are perpetually constrained otherwise.

If you are often worried, frustrated, irritable, unsatisfied, depressed, chances are your mind is cluttered with unhelpful paradigms, assumptions, and historical mindets that are no longer serving you.

Letting go is not difficult if you recognize that it is both a physiological as well as a mental process. There are shortcuts. And in many cases, it is not as serious as others want you to think: a distinction, a story, a new routine will help you transcend current road bumps, in no time. And feel energised, focused, and inspired once again.?

With Appreciation.


PS (It is my first time in the French capital. I am curious, and eager to soak in its atmosphere!)

#entrepreneur #leadershipcoaching #executivecoaching

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Callum Webber

Training Aspiring Remote High Ticket Closers Who Want More Than the 9-5 lifestyle, to excel working remotely with Credible coaches

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Manuel Giudice Hats off to you, bro! ??

Susannah Ross

I help you find the best words to tell your story, especially to write good web content. Writing courses | Individual writing coaching | Editing audio and video scripts | Website reviews | Editorial consultancy

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Sounds great, Manuel. Enjoy Paris!

Manuel Giudice

Executive Coach, Facilitator, Speaker: Author of One Step Forward. Feat.: The Guardian, Metro.co.uk, Brainz Magazine, The I Paper, The Sunday Post

1 年
Manuel Giudice

Executive Coach, Facilitator, Speaker: Author of One Step Forward. Feat.: The Guardian, Metro.co.uk, Brainz Magazine, The I Paper, The Sunday Post

1 年

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