Time for change.

Time for change.

Finally, something is being said and done to raise awareness of the harmful impact smartphones have on our children's and families' lives.

Smartphones are addictive, and we know now that they can harm mental health, that they can cause anxiety, depression, and sleep disturbances.

They have the potential to expose children to harmful content, creating arguments, and disharmony, and reducing attention spans as they go.

"?97% of 12-year-olds in Britain have a smartphone. When children started getting them, there was no research about their impact. Now there is, and it’s overwhelming. Smartphones expose children to harmful content, raise the likelihood of developing a mental illness and are highly addictive." @smartphonefreechildhoods

From my perspective, as a family counsellor I regret that I haven’t used my voice before now to share my professional experience regarding the negative impact smartphones and online social media screen activities have on our children and subsequently on their families.

In my role as a counsellor, 8 out of 10 of the problem/problems that come to family meetings have phone and screen usage at the root of the difficulties the families are experiencing. ?

To a large extent, parents had been blissfully ignorant and unaware of the addictive nature and potential harm a smartphone can do.

From a young age, children are put under huge amounts of peer pressure to have a smartphone and to be connected using online apps and social media. As a result, many parents have capitulated without wanting to, and children are given smartphones when they are too young and ill-prepared.

With little or no rules, guidance, or restrictions children have been given free rein to navigate a dangerous world where the impact of what some of them have seen can’t be unseen and will have a lifelong negative impact.

Many young people I see struggle with anxiety often caused by the various apps that expose them to an overwhelming amount of unrestricted information, too early, too soon, too sexy, and too much.

If you don't 'fit in' the online world can be incredibly unkind, nasty, mean and unnecessary.

Aside from anxiety some of the young people I see show addictive behaviours like those you would see with people who have a substance addiction.

Manipulation, cohesive control, deceitful tactics to get what they want, lack of respect for adults and authority, bad language, and a ‘sophisticated’ terminology that’s way above their age range.

Here are five concrete reasons that smartphones and social media negatively affect youth mental health. @gozenlove

  1. Self-facing Cameras encourage the selfie generation, a heightened focus on appearance and body image.
  2. Social comparison has encouraged the media to focus on unrealistic beauty and lifestyle standards.
  3. Like and share buttons- amplify the need for social approval.
  4. Sleep deprivation, out-of-school hours children devote an average of nine hours a day online in some format.
  5. Withdrawal from the world, children and teens retreat into online worlds isolating themselves from real-life social interactions which are key to their social and emotional development.

?Ciations Haidt, J. (2023) The Anxious Generation. Penguin Random House.

Twenge, J.M., Martin, G.N.,& Campbell, W.K. (2017). Decreases in psychological well-being among American adolescents after 2021 and links to screen time during the rise of smartphone technology. Emotion, 19 (6), 765-780

We should all agree that childhood is too short to be spent on a smartphone and that none of us want to grow up in a beige society where nobody dares to be different or fail for fear of being judged at every online corner.

?“I find myself worrying most that when we hand our children phones we steal their boredom from them. As a result, we are raising a generation of writers who will never start writing, artists who will never start doodling, chefs who will never make a mess of the kitchen, athletes who will never kick a ball against a wall, musicians who will never pick up their aunt’s guitar and start strumming."?Glennon Doyle. Untamed.

So, what can you do?

  1. Put your phone away.
  2. Model the behaviour you wish to see.
  3. Walk the talk, make mistakes, have fun, share your feelings, be present, enjoy living in the moment, and show them how it's done.
  4. Live life.
  5. Sign up to https://smartphonefreechildhood.co.uk and support their movement to bring about change. Smartphonefree childhood has been an accidental movement In February 2024, friends Daisy and Clare set up a WhatsApp group to support each other in the decision to hold off on buying their kids smartphones. To their amazement, within 24 hours, thousands of other parents had joined the group after an?Instagram post?by Daisy about it went viral.? The initial group quickly maxed out at 1000 members, so they encouraged people to set up local groups to build the conversation in their areas. Within hours over 60 Smartphone Free Childhood WhatsApp groups had launched the length and breadth of Britain, kicking off a national conversation about the harms of smartphones for children.

Let's put a stop to overprotecting our children in the real world and underprotecting them online. We have everything to gain and nothing to lose.


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