Today, I Called Myself Stupid. Not Cool. Why?
Sonia McDonald
CEO & Founder @ LeadershipHQ - Future, Emerging & Women Leadership Experts | Global Keynote Speaker | Award-Winning Author | Extraordinary Leaders & Executive Coach | Leadership Advisor
I can't believe I called stupid today. I have spent the last few days moving, slipped over and cracked some ribs. It has been a very tough few days! Stress. Overwhelm. Now, I live and breathe self-love and worth space, and today, I said something that I hadn't told myself for many years. My darling daughter heard me, and she screamed, "Mum! No...you are not stupid. Please don't speak to yourself like that." I cried. It was tough to hear her say this.
Calling yourself "stupid" or anything negative about yourself might seem like a minor slip. Still, it matters a lot because how we speak to ourselves shapes our self-perception, mindset, and overall well-being. Here's why it's essential to be mindful of self-talk:
Instead of calling yourself names, try to reframe your self-talk more constructively. For instance, if something doesn't go as planned, rather than saying, "I'm stupid," try saying, "I made a mistake, and that's okay. I can learn from this." This approach helps you maintain a compassionate and growth-oriented mindset aligned with your belief in the importance of kindness and courage in leadership.
How do you talk to yourself like someone you ADORE?
Talking to yourself like someone you adore is a powerful practice that fosters self-compassion, resilience, and a positive mindset. Here are some steps and tips to help you cultivate this loving self-talk:
Identify the Voice of Someone You Adore
Practice Self-Compassion
Use Affirmations and Positive Reframing
Be Gentle and Forgiving
Celebrate Small Wins
Create a Safe Space for Your Emotions
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Visualise a Supportive Companion
Practice Daily Check-ins
This approach aligns well with your belief in the importance of self-compassion over self-esteem and your focus on kindness and courage in leadership. Treating yourself with the same respect and love you would show others creates a strong foundation for personal growth and well-being.
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Named as one of the Top 250 Influential Women in the world and Top 100 Australian Entrepreneurs by Richtopia, and is internationally recognised as an expert in leadership and culture, organisational development, kindness, and courage, as well as workplace diversity and the neuroscience of leadership.
She has over 30 years of experience in human resource management, leadership, and organisational development and has held leadership positions worldwide. Today, Sonia and her team have worked with thousands of leaders, teams, and organisations, building outstanding leadership and cultures.
Sonia has written several books on leadership, including Leadership Attitude, Just Rock It!, and First Comes Courage. She writes regularly for publications such as The Australian, HRD Magazine, BBC Capital, and Business Insider. She has also spoken on stage for AHRI, HRD Magazine, and a number of other leading global?HR platforms and conferences.
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2 个月Oh, that happens to me so often! Even though I also emphasize myself so often that negative thoughts and self-talk have a big influence on our reality, I still catch myself doing it frequently. Great article!
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2 个月LOVE this article. So many women I work with carry negative self talk with them. The way you articulated the reframe is excellent. P.S I am so sorry to hear about the ribs, I hope you recover smoothly and quickly ??
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2 个月Love all of these insights and tips! In my experience as a therapist, one obstacle to adopting self compassion is that people use "tough love" toward themselves as a motivator for success. They worry that being kind and compassionate will make them lose their edge!
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2 个月It took awhile to learn, but self-depricating humor isn't funny, and it actually tarnishes how others view us. Common mistake, Sonia!