Tips on Patching a Bleeding Heart

It will please some of you to know that most of us gauge your sense of style based on the shoes.

Your shoes must be pristine and blend with your outfit. Formal corporate meetings require more formal attire than trainers and a suit!

The Plot….

Not long ago, I prepared for an afternoon of engagement and fellowship with ladies. I woke up, cleaned, prepped dinner, washed, made up my face, and completed it with red lipstick.

My attire was a shirt dress made of African fabric. It had brown, cream, and green flowery prints. It was perfect in my eyes!

The pair of shoes were light brown wedges. I knew they would complement the look.

Before leaving the house, my 6th sense alerted me to carry an extra pair of canvas shoes as a backup. I obliged.

Choosing the right shoe that fits well gives you an unexplainable euphoria. Mine were ok but had a tough tag at the back that painfully rubbed my leg, digging into my smooth flesh. I noticed a tinge of pain near the heel that kept getting stronger and stronger.

The stronger the pain got, the more I resisted checking. I assured myself it would subside provided I changed my walking style.

I tried hard to walk on air in order to prevent hurting myself more. It was all in vain. As soon as I alighted from the car, I bent over and untied the strap.

I was shocked that I had stained my hands with a red liquid. Blood. The shoe on my right leg had peeled the skin from the leg. I was bleeding.

I was within reach of the spot where the meeting was being held therefore resolved to proceed with my journey and check the wound once I was at the venue. I wasn't willing to make changes to the dress code. The only thing I did was not tie the strap back.

This was the most uncomfortable 5 minutes walk I ever did. I ignored the stares from onlookers and fixed my mind on my outward style.?Not once did I think of the pain I was feeling!

The first thing I did upon arriving at the venue was to get the pair of canvas shoes that were in my bag, grab some wet wipes and pocket tissue to clean the wound, remove the wedges, and put on the canvas.

This was a teachable lesson during my meeting with the ladies.

Lessons

• In your quest to please people, you ignore the cry for help from your outer child.
• ?"When you say yes to others, make sure you are not saying no to yourself". - Paulo Coelho
• Don’t wait for the wound to cut deep and lose a lot of blood before you act. There is no better time to take care of your needs by loving yourself than now!
• Don’t focus so much on what people say about you that you turn a blind eye to the genuine beauty that's you.

Questions

• How many times do we walk around bleeding on the inside, yet all that the outside world sees is beauty and a smile?
• How many of us are in the cult of superficiality trying hard to please people?
• How much do we love ourselves to make a point of stopping to patch our wounds first?
• How deeply should we cut our own pain before addressing it?

Steps

• I know most of you carry self-inflicted wounds for years which have formed our misbeliefs. I invite you to start the healing process by writing a letter to yourself. Forgiving yourself for the times you neglected, dismissed, or underplayed your pain.
• Love is the currency of healing.
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• The first step to healing starts now…….

“Love yourself. Forgive yourself. Be true to yourself. How you treat yourself sets the standard for how others will treat you.”― Steve Maraboli

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