Is Time Alone is Healer of wounds, both Physical and Mental?
Vinod Dahake
Retires Scientist G & Scientist In charge MERADO Ludhiana CSIR / CMERI and Ex Commander (Indian Navy)
1.?Time alone may not be a healer. The passage of time may relieve one from acute pain, but it does not completely relieve from pain. On the other hand, time can be used well to supplement healing purposes and processes. When time is used well, in terms of healing wounds, then it is because we do some specific management with it. We take time and shape towards recovery, as specific acts need to be done in orderly manner. It is this critical management coupled with courage and honesty that heals all wounds.
2.?Measure of time: there is absolutely no doubt how the time is measured, as defined by physicist. The clock works with the same pace, the seconds, Minutes, hours, days, ... so on to years, decades. It is our feel for the same which varies like when we are buy with actions one after the another we just do not have feel for how much time has elapsed on contrast when we are waiting for bus or boarding on passenger liner, we do feel that our clock is struck or moving with much slower pace.
It is the healing process usually extremely slow, and with the pain associated with it gives us the feel that it is ticking at lower pace. To me, it is like thermodynamic Ideal process, which is known to be quasi static process, with equilibrium in close vicinity as total heat transfer should take place at every quasi static point
3.?With the time we need some healer:
A healer, is the process designer, controller & at times mentor also. It is he or she who takes you thru the process encouraging one with evoking its internal energy. Simultaneously, one has to take measures to mitigate pain. This person may accelerate the process of “Let Go “which is also slow and difficult process.
4.?Let Go: It is extremely slow, painful and difficult process. It also depends how deep is the wound? And what it means to you (How painful?). Often this process has many layers like onions, layer after layer. One may need precise help to peel off a layer, as the time goes by. ?
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5.?Shift away or give up attitude:
Even a small child when get hurt from some hot object, he knows the associated pain. It is natural for him to keep away from such hot spots. It is our natural instinct to follow this and as a result we may give up, or something similar to that. In the worst case give up from the life
6.?Memories: Most difficult and obstructive in the healing process are old memories. The good friend, close relatives who act as controlling process for healing often listen less and advise more, as a resulting a feel for additional force or push or pull.
7.??Look forward: The mentors, friends, who are controlling the process need to emphasis that grieving is about remembering; remembering the love and the loss; the good times and the bad times. Also the importance to look forward, adapt the change and not remain static with few remembrances. Life is to move ahead accept the change or dynamism
8.?Does a helper is required?
It is crawling kid, we often to pick him up and move to some other direction. But often we do think that we are own person and we do not need external help. It is our deeper thinking that which brings the clarity to issue that how much help do we get in our day to day life to get food water, shelter and so on. Truly our life is dependent on others, which we call it as social system.
So, the healing also requires support from helpers, mentors, professionals, close by friends or relatives
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1 年Time doesn't heal Vinod Dahake memories start to fade
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1 年Vinod Dahake , indeed time alone may not heal. It can augment the impact of other measures taken to heal
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1 年You have written about an important topic, Vinod Dahake. Thank you for your wise words. I can feel that the message is coming straight from a noble heart. A 'physical wound' may heal on its own. Or we can follow a doctor's advise. Time can play an important role here. A psychological wound is of a different nature, altogether. In 'time', people may forget it, but not fully 'heal' it. There are good chances, it may surface again. The 'psychological wound' you described is referred to as 'pain body' by Eckhart Tolle. Our dear friend, Jim Welsh, here on LinkedIn, calls them 'delusions' or 'unresolved emotions'. He says that while these wounds are the cause for suffering, they are also the gateway to Silence. He suggests that we take the courage to thoroughly investigate them, get to the root of what caused them, 'who' really is affected, 'who' is defending its position, etc. By repeatedly introspecting like this, we 'heal' the wounds, resolve them and peace arrives. Any 'technique' can only temporarily heal wounds. The healing, in such a case, is superficial. The volcano can erupt any moment. Deep introspection is the only salve that works. Remember, some wounds, may have to be worked on, repeatedly. ????
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1 年Excellent post ??
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1 年Very well presented Vinod Sir Vinod Dahake. Like others i had also heard time heals the wound. But as you said and as i see with passage of time we are absorbed mentally in other important things of life. But the wound continue to exists in our heart and it erupts whenever we are alone with ourselves. And this is called negative energy stored inside our body resulting in various bodily disorders and we are unaware of it also called as Blockage. Healing of wounds is very much required for which understanding, empathetic and humane healer is required(difficult to find these days as healing has also became an money minting profession). Unless we are healed(layers of onion) the wound will not let us grow fully to our potential. Thank you very much Vinod Sir for wonderful sharing and putting the finger on the nerve of reality, "Time Heals wound" whereas the reality is opposite Vinod Sir Vinod Dahake. One accepts or doesn't accepts.