Mountain Minute #210: Three Words Make You Wiser
I have no doubt that you have wisdom that could benefit the people around you: family, friends, colleagues and perhaps clients.
It is entirely possible that you could save others a lot of time, effort and even agony... if only they would follow your advice.
That said, how many times have you offered advice, only to have the other person ignore it?
In my case, it's probably has been: thousands.
After year and years of beating my head against an invisible wall, I finally learned my lesson.
These days, I am likely to preface anything that might sound like advice with three words (or maybe four; you decide):
"When you're ready..."
It goes like this:
These words empower the other person to approach you when they want and/or need help. It lets them signal the time and place. It gives you an opportunity to help only when the person is most receptive.
When you're ready, give it a try.
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1 年Great idea Bruce, and may I say from today onward whatever you do and think, do it with sincerity in your heart. this is one credo in my life.
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1 年Most of us listen with an intent to respond, rather than understand. Sometimes a person might not be in the right frame of mind to process their thoughts & emotions. They might just want to vent, and come back later. I have been guilty of giving unsolicited advice myself :D As a therapist, I have trained myself to hold my tongue before spitting out 101 ways to fix you ??
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1 年I’ve used the “when you’re ready” line before. Sometimes people need a gentle push forward in love though;) Fear often times holds people captive. So I like to say…if not now, when? If not you, who? Some people will never be ready if they wait for their feelings to catch up.
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1 年Great idea with a sensible approach! Love it!
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1 年Brilliant advice Bruce Kasanoff