A Three Mother Dilemma

My journey to the United States wasn't just a physical voyage; it was a profound emotional and intellectual transformation. As someone who grew up in India, a country steeped in rich traditions and a deep sense of community, my life was shaped by values instilled in me from a young age. My biological mother passed away when I was born, leaving a void that India, my second mother, lovingly filled. This loss left me with a complex mix of emotions—a love and hate relationship with my biological mother. I felt an inexplicable love for her, but also a deep sense of abandonment, a lingering ache from being left so young.

India nurtured me, gave me strength, and instilled in me a sense of identity and purpose. However, life has a way of leading us down unexpected paths. My journey to the United States began as an adventure, a quest for education, opportunity, and personal growth. The allure of the American Dream, with its promises of freedom and success, was irresistible. Yet, this transition was anything but simple. It brought with it years of intense introspection and a dilemma that weighed heavily on my heart.

As I settled into life in the U.S., I discovered a new side of myself—one that thrived in the diverse, dynamic environment. The United States, my third mother, provided a sense of belonging that was both comforting and invigorating. Here, I found the space to build my dreams, explore my potential, and redefine my identity. It was a place where I could truly be myself.

The most challenging decision of my life came after twelve years of introspection and life-changing events. This wasn't just a bureaucratic process; it was a soul-searching journey that spanned over a decade. The thought of relinquishing my Indian citizenship felt like a betrayal, not just to my country, but to a core part of my identity. Yet, I realized that this decision wasn't about choosing one mother over another. It was about finding a new home, a place where I could serve India better and more fully realize my potential.

The U.S. had become more than just a country to me; it was a nurturing presence, a mother figure that made me feel secure and valued. In embracing this new identity, I wasn't abandoning India. On the contrary, I was embracing the opportunity to contribute to both nations in meaningful ways. My journey was not about leaving my mother behind; it was about finding a new home where I could cherish both my roots and my growth.

July 4th 2024, will always be most significant day of my life when i took oath to become a US citizen. Thanks everyone for contributing to my wonderful life.