Thought for the Day ~ Don't let fear stop You

Always do your best…..uncomfortable emotions let us know that there is a problem to attend to. So, we have to learn to sit in our discomfort for a while and feel what we have to feel before we can shift our energy towards resolving it. Doing this allows us to see our own truth. But when we avoid our discomfort we get stuck in the emotions attached to it. Because we are attached to something outside of ourself and we don’t want it to change. This sets up a cyclical rumination that never goes anywhere and so we never move forward in a meaningful way. We have to understand that change is inevitable, and it will arise time and again in every life. A relationship will end, we will lose a job, there may be illness, or we ill experience the death of a loved one. What is vitally important is that we do not let these things become entwined in how we define ourselves.

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With awareness, we can observe how we are attached to an experience, an object, or an idea. We can see that when we do this we are in essence defending our definition of self. That we resist the change, and with that resistance we get stuck. In these moments we surrender all of our joy for an idea that we used to have about ourself that isn’t true anymore. Unchecked we begin to take our frustrations and discomfort out on those around us. The spiritual lesson here is that when fear shows up, it’s usually an indication that you’re doing what you need to be doing. To deal with our lives effectively; we have to believe in the integrity and value of the jagged path. We have to see that it is our ability to navigate the ups and downs of a life by being courageous, and honest with ourselves. We may never make sense of the things that happen in our lives. But with deep personal work and with love in our heart, we can make sense of ourselves. Namaste ??

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Brene Brown said “What gets in the way of reckoning with emotion is exactly what gets in the way of engaging in other courageous behaviours, fear. We don’t like how difficult emotions feel and we’re worried about what people might think. We don’t know what to do with discomfort and vulnerability. Emotion can feel terrible, even physically overwhelming. We can feel exposed, at risk, and uncertain in the midst of the emotion. Our instinct is to run from the pain. In fact, most of us were never taught how to hold discomfort, sit with it, or communicate it, only how to discharge or dump it. Or to pretend that it’s not happening. That is why off loading becomes a habit. We off load emotion and discomfort onto other people. Ironically, as we are creating distance between ourselves and people by off loading, we actually crave deeper emotional connection and richer emotional lives.”

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By Lisa Scott ~ Executive Life Coach

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