Thinking is difficult, therefore most people judge- Carl Jung

There's only so many things a person can concentrate on in life to give our full critical thinking energy to as Judgement is rapid, and sometimes what really matters is agreeing with people around us. We all can think all we like, but we can't think for other people.

You know each person is probably trying to resolve their own problems in their own ways. Perhaps the best thing we can do is just smile and offer some help if we can. If not, we can just maintain some distance and still try to smile about it. Where is the need to label it as either good or bad? Why we need to jump in other shoes so easily? and they call it what? Empathy! being in others' shoes and understanding how it feels when the new shoe bites? Come on guys, you had better mind your own business and life. Live and let live the happy life. If you wish to make a difference to others' lives then make by motivating them instead of just judging them from your own lenses.

Because judging of people is the easiest thing to do for people, right? For the same reason that you don’t judge old shabby buildings, beautiful trees lining the street, horrible Mumbai roads (with pot holes too, eh!), or your messy working desk because they don't react to you. Instead of judging you just accept that they are what these things are. Even if the tree falls on your car, the road block causes you to trip, or the desk collapses when you sit on it, except for an initial annoyance, you know that it’s foolish to be angry at a tree for being a tree, a bad road for being a bad road, or a desk to have the weaknesses that it does.

Once you come to understand some guy’s nature, the natural attitude is to accept them as being what they are, for the reasons that they are what they are even they are your peers or subordinates or whatever. That doesn’t mean they may not bother you, or that you mightn’t avoid them or report them to the boss. Naturally all of us are good at judging our own colleagues or team members from good, bad or ugly, they don't concern your opinion about them.

But of course thinking about people and showing concern to their issues and helping them around is not an easy task to perform. Because understanding people takes you beyond judgement to an acceptance of reality as it is. That doesn’t mean you can’t work to change reality, or protect people from it. It means you don’t waste time on judging, which is just getting wrapped up in your own preferences.

Individuals come with different symptoms in your life, and even Sigmund Freud looked at the roots of the symptoms within the individual. He wondered as to why are some people worriers where as other people are able to get on with life? What do these lucid or vivid and disturbing dreams mean, particularly when they are repeated? Freud always raised the subject of childhood sexuality. He did not seriously consider incest and child abuse in those days. That would have been too shocking for that kind of period. But today even when we talk openly about such things we can become easily judgemental about some boys or girls why they are behaving oddly like that? We really need to think about them and understand their plight and empathise with their bad childhood and think how to rehabilitate them instead of judging them as bad boys or girls.

We may like to generalise that only the shallow people normally judge. Those that do not really know themselves as they are afraid to face their real “own self”, they are more than happy to point out issues and faults with others or “judge”, as it were and it’s the actual action itself that shows that their “true self” is trying to communicate to the “problematic egoistic personality” however it’s not “being heard” and requires external reflection back in order to actualise the reality in this case. Even for those individuals are confident in “self” and know the “self”, there are no external frameworks of understanding or rigidity that warp or cause any issues with “deep thinking”; as the only frameworks required to be doing so.

That being said, the culture and the environment that we live in today's world makes it very difficult to think because we have so many artificial means of stimulating our brains without having to think. Our times are of fleeting and expecting your thoughts to grow when you are constantly stimulating with outside stimulus is counterproductive to that process if you agree. Stay blessed! #kishoreshintre