Things To Stop Doing So You Can Heal

"There are things you can’t play around with. If it rejects you, it’s best to leave it alone."

As Nakeia Homer stated, there are things to stop doing so you can heal:

• Replaying the past: If you want to heal, the only way forward is in front of you. The past has no more to offer us and reliving it can stagnate us and prevent us from moving forward. You can try distracting yourself, planning and taking action, questioning your thoughts, trying meditation. 
• Looking for closure: It’s not needed. What you need is to love yourself enough to create your closure and move on. All of your power and purpose is in this present moment, and dragging problems from the past is only bringing you down. In my experience, whether you get closure or not from any situation, it doesn’t necessarily change the outcome of it.
• Waiting for an apology: This can generate resentment and anger. It is not necessary to receive an apology to forgive. Forgiveness isn't an external action but rather an internal state of letting go of anger and resentment. Protect yourself and let go of the hurt.
• Pretending you are okay: This can be very toxic for you. It will never be a positive thing to pretend to be okay when there is something inside you eating away at you. You can fool others a little, but you will never fool yourself. If you don't drain, there will come a time where you won't be able to hold so much inside you.
• Trying to prove how strong you are: When you derive your worth from seeking outside approval instead of accepting your true self, you end up being insecure. Trying to prove your strength and relying too much on other people's approval prevents you from being truly happy with yourself. Don’t prove anything to anyone, and focus on yourself.
• Ignoring or downplaying your feelings: Your feelings have messages for you, so start by listening very carefully. If you can’t put in words whatever you’re feeling, you can try expanding your emotional vocabulary and telling yourself and others where you are in your emotional life. 
• Blaming, shaming, and judging yourself: Do take responsibility for the things you are at fault for. Your actions and your words are yours to determine. It doesn’t matter what other people do or how bad other people act. Also, avoid judging and being overly critical of other people; it’s the best way to stop doing all that on yourself. 

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