THINGS TO KNOW ABOUT KUNDALI MILAN BEFORE MARRIAGE
Amrita Shanker
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The context of marriage according to the Vedas depict that the two beings engaged
in marriage will pursue not just the dharma, represented by houses 1,5,9 in
respective birthcharts but also Artha- houses 2, 6,10 (earning money and other
possessions), Kama- houses 3,7,11(physical and other desires) and Moksha
houses- 4,8,12 (the eternal liberation) together simultaneously. So technical
definition of marriage would be its the settlement of the Pitru rinn through dharma,
kama, artha & moksha.
Many people do not believe in kundali Milan & matchmaking. As such it is prevalent
& practiced mostly in India as compared to western countries.
In the era of multiple relationships, hooking up & situationships, when people
decide to get married, they have already gone through a lot of emotional damage &
have major trust issues.
To find a compatible partner to who ticks most of your boxes becomes difficult. Most
of them want to marry for love & kundali Milan plays a role only when a parent or
elders especially in India want to make sure that match is actually made in heaven &
its safe to get them married to avoid any conflicts in the future.
Incidentally, when couples who are already in a love relationship approach me for
kundali milan, my first question to them is how will this help if you already love each
other? What if the kundalis don’t match, will you break up?
Almost 100 percent of the time, their answer is of course they will not! So my advice
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to them then is to not go ahead with it as it creates unwanted doubts.
In Vedas also the best kind of marriage is Gandarva vivah – love marriage. Still, if they want to go ahead then its their choice, then take it as a pre-marital counselling session!
Kundali milan is advised in an arrange set up. Now how does it help? As you are
totally unaware of each other’s nature, the compatibility can be checked by position
of the Moon in respective charts. 8th house depicts longevity, in-laws, 4th house
depicts – domestic peace & happiness, 5th house- progeny & romance in marriage,
7th house- nature of spouse, spouse, partners in your life. 2nd &11th house
finances & gains, 7th , 8th & 12th house sexual compatibility & sexual health. Position
of Jupiter, Venus & Mars in the charts, doshas to avoid & many other sutras are also
checked for over all marital happiness.
To come a conclusion whether this match is preferred for marriage or not, many factors need to be considered as discussed above besides ashtkoot milan.
So, if you really believe in astrology, then it's advisable to do kundali milan in detail by
a learned astrologer & then decide. Otherwise totally exempt it.
Marriages can only be successful & survive in this era when there is mutual respect, care, understanding & conscious promise to self to choose each other for the rest of your lives.
Even if your kundalis match but you default on the other factors, a marriage cannot
be successful nor survive. So do marriages are really made in heaven? That is
debatable . But based on our shastras, marriage is removal of Pitru rinn-(Ancestral
debt), for dharma & for karmic settlement. So choose wisely & consciously as once married, you both will go through highs & lows of life together for your own karmic settlement.
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