Thanks for the advice...But.

You can lead a horse to water...

There have been many occasions in my past where "Good advice" has been prescribed, but not taken up. Usually from those who know better from qualification or lived experience, and you guessed it, at my expense. Because I knew better! Having recently been in a privileged position to offer some advice, to then have it ignored has made me reflect on my own actions in the past, and how I must have made the individual feel.

?How can we learn from others experience, whilst treading our own paths?

?How do we manage relationships, should we decide to ignore the advice?

?How do we react when the advice given out of love, is ignored?

I think we only truly learn from mistakes when we make them. For example, as children, we only learn gravity hurts, when we trip and fall from the step we was balancing on. Regardless of the adult lesson being taught of "get down from there before you trip and hurt yourself!"

The lesson being "take care when balancing. The act of falling teaches us to be cautious, and trains our nervous system for increased balance. Regardless of the advice, because we know better. The act of making mistakes encourages a learning curve. But, as adults, what if we dropped the ego, invited and then applied "Good advice". Do we still have the same learning curve? Is there still an internal question surrounding the pain inflicted from gravity?

Advice is like Morpheus and Neo debating the Red and Blue pill. Once you take either or, the choice has been made, and the ship sails. The only way we can take up "good advice" is through trust. Trust that the individual actually has your best interests at heart. And if you have been stung before, this can be hard to accept. But there in lies the paradox. If you have been stung before, you took the advice, and was let down. Cementing and entrenching the "I'm better off alone" or "My way is best" perception. The only way to advance is to trust yourself. Identify the areas in your life where you are being "untruthful" and "inauthentic" and show up for others.

Todays exercise: List areas in your life where you could do better. Be ruthless with yourself, not others. Identify elements where you are falling short. Post it publicly within your own mind and internal personalities. Converse with these personalities in meditation and listen to the answers. The answers will be tough to listen too. That's the point of the exercise. But if you are honest with yourself, and listen to your own advice...you'll make less mistakes and others will trust you far quicker.

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