Thank you for stitching some nice people into fabric of my life

One of the friends in our circle had twins recently. Now due to pandemics, they had to manage everything on their own. From hospital visits, tests, delivery, household chores, and after-birth care. Meanwhile, one of the family members had an option to come and stay for few months to help but then the couple denied saying that they would manage on their own.A few days ago, I had a talk with them, and I said, ‘It is so incredible that you guys managed everything on your own. Even when there was an option to call the family, you didn't. And both of you are managing so well, that too without cribbing!!’

To which they replied, ‘Why to crib when we have chosen it?’ Sometimes a normal conversation can switch on the tube light in the brain, and you think, ‘Oh! Why didn’t I think that way?’ That was an ‘Aha’ moment for me. I had to reflect back on many of the life choices I make on the daily basis. ‘Oh No! Breathing exercises today too! I just wish I get some break.’ ‘Juicing looks so tough. Oh, God! When will this end?’ ‘I don’t want to get up today? Can I skip running? Ummm... No. Sigh!’ When I see all the things I do on the daily basis, I know that ‘I’ have made these choices. I couldn't have gone running, ate unhealthy food, missed meditation and breathing exercises, but I did all.

Why? Because I want good health. Then Kishore, why do you have to crib when you have chosen it? I am almost 65. I’m telling you the honest truth when I say that each year of my life was slightly better than the previous year. That is usually true for anyone who learns from their mistakes and misfortunes in life. And, I certainly have. Even so, that’s not true for everyone. And, sometimes people’s lives are screwed up for no reason of anything they did wrong. Regardless, most people are like me. I don’t know what you’re going to do with that information, but that’s a no bad answer from yours truly.

Live for yourself", There are actually many meanings to this which people actually interpret in a totally wrong way every time when it is used. The following are its meanings: 1. Live to satisfy yourself and not others. It doesn't mean to not do a job or work under an employer and work on your own. It means to live for your own satisfaction in life. To do what makes You happy. I mean literally you. Do what you love do what you crave for in life be who ever you want to be. Something even take a lot of hard work. May be not somethings but most of the things in life take hard work but do it and seriously, do it just for your own happiness and not because others may feel happy for you. Believe me. If you become successful doing what you love, even the people who did not like you doing what you loved will be happy for you and feel proud of you. So go and do whatever you love and want to live for.

Be the master of your own decisions and be ready for what might come next. This doesn't mean you must not listen to any one nor does it mean to never take any advices. Always be a good listener because people really adore a good listener. They will appreciate that you at least took in what they had to say. But its all upon you, this life is yours and no one else's. Its only you who will get the fruits of what you make of it and no one else. This is a fact. So be sure you be the one to take your own decisions and stay so strong upon it that if by chance you are to go wrong. You never blame others for it. Because when you fail, remember that it was just you who decide to make that choice or follow what some one had told you to do. So make your life your own. Its the right thing to do.

And don't live to impress others or to show what you don't have or to pretend to be what you are not. More than half of the population you know are actually doing what they don't just to show off or to show others that they are something what they are actually not. You will know it that its all true. Most of the people on Instagram and Facebook and many more places like this(I don't know many) and even in the outside world, are just doing what they do just so that they can tell about it to others and make sure others know how great they are. I love travelling.

But now I see people travelling just for the sake of reaching the place and spending more than half an hour to get their perfect selfie so that they can post about it on the net or speak of it when they go back home when they actually loose more time they had which they could actually cherish about the place. I see people buying costly brands so that they can post about it saying how much they love the brand when they fact is they just want to show others they have it to that they are rich. Switch of your birthday to private on Facebook and you disappear to the world. No body wishes you. That's the truth my friend. No body really cares. All they have lived is to impress others.

Live to be happy with yourself and feel the sense of achievement without caring what others think about you. Do what makes you happy. No body actually cares how great your life is so just spend it on embracing the good moments when you have them rather than telling it to others just to know that they think your life is great. Know body will care how much struggle you had to go through to reach there. Live and let live. Again. Don't take my advices if you don't like em. Its your life. You get what you make of it. All i would say in the end is, Have a great life which at the end you feel proud to say, "I lived for myself." Cheers!