A Texting Tip That Could Open Doors for You

You shouldn't slide into the inbox of someone you've never conversed with before and write a simple 'Hi.'

What are you doing?

You are torturing them and working against your interests in the process.

Now, they have to start asking themselves questions;

'Who is this?

Do we know each other, and I lost their contacts?

What do they want?

Are they a friend or an enemy?’

That draws a lot of energy.

Most people will ignore your ‘Hi’ message and others that you may send after.

A few will put aside what they are doing to try to find out what you are up to.

They can say 'Hi' back, hoping you are going to clarify things. But you don't and write back something like 'how are you doing with this Corona thing.'

Surely!

Now, resentment is filling their heart. They want to tell you to stop wasting their time and go straight to the point. But, they don't want to be rude.

And that way, the conversation goes on and on, and your target is still struggling and getting more irritated with every text.

I promise you, after that conversation, chances that they ignore you going forward are very high. And they are justified.

It is, to some extent, a painful experience.

I know I am not the only one who feels so.

If you are one of those who start with a simple 'Hi,' know that you are doing a lot of harm to the person you are trying to engage as well as to yourself.

You are wasting their time and putting them through anxiety.

Meanwhile, you are making it hard for them to like you enough to give you that business, job, help, or relationship you are looking for.

There is a better way to do it. There is a more productive way to send the first text to someone who you've never talked to before.

Remember, you are somehow invading their private space. So you better make them feel comfortable with you from the word go.

And do not waste their time. Indeed, some people receive hundreds of private messages daily.

It would be best if you made it easy for them to engage you. And even if they receive one private message daily, don't assume they were waiting for your message or that they have all day.

If you do it the right way, you significantly increase your chances of getting what you want from them.

And it is simple; PUT ALL YOUR CARDS ON THE TABLE WITH YOUR VERY FIRST TEXT MESSAGE.

Say who you are, how you knew about the recipient, and the exact purpose of reaching out.

Something like:

"Hi. Daniel, this is Judy. We met at the writers' event last week. We talked about working together. Let me know when I can call we discuss this further. Judy.”

That saves time, shows some respect, it is professional, and it is simply good manners.

So next time you slide into someone's inbox, introduce yourself properly, say what your connection is and why you are writing—all in the first text.

Don't waste their time and give them unnecessary anxiety. They will like you for it :)