Tend the scars, avoid the cracks.

Everyday opens ample opportunities for learning.

Recently, I observed that scars acquired in my youthful age had either disappeared or hardly visible on my skin. This can't be unique to me. What's your take?

Scars are evidence of natural human body’s healing process – the product of body’s repair mechanism from wounds or injury.

If you tend the scars, you bear less (and less) pains and overtime you forget the pains ‘forever’. You may even find out that those scars are no longer where they used to be any longer.

In the industry, cracks on walls of buildings, road networks, plant equipment or reinforcements are referred to as structural defects.

Some of these defects are repairable while many are not. The price of irreparable or irreversible cracks are costly!

Hence, the goal is always to avoid cracks for safety, health, environment and economic reasons. You do all you can to ensure structural defect does not precipitate.

In relationships, there will be wounds. Let the wound heal in love, maturity, and mutual respect.

I know that it’s not easy but it’s worth every penny to give peace a chance.

Most lovers or business partners have called it quit on account of irreconcilable differences.

Many have even lost long-term friendships due to opposing political views averse to congruence.

Things have fallen apart, and the center could no longer hold – credits to William Butler Yeats and Nigeria’s Chinua Achebe.

Relationship breaks down irreparably when hurts are not treated as wounds but cracks. In the same vein, wounds unattended can lead to permanent amputation!

My advice?

????Learn to tend the scars in relationship after giving ‘cognitive attention’ to the wounds’ healing process and

???Always avoid the cracks with all your zeal and zest.

Enjoy this Leadership GOT BORN series focused on healthy relationship.

Note: GOT BORN is the acronym for Group of Ten Blocks of Refreshing Nuggets.

1.???"Treasure your relationships, not your possessions." — Anthony J. D'Angelo

2.???"The best thing to hold onto in life is each other." — Audrey Hepburn

3.???"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” — Maya Angelou

4.???“I don't need anyone to rectify my existence. The most profound relationship we will ever have is the one with ourselves.” — Shirley MacLaine

5.???“Learn to be quiet enough to hear the genuine in yourself, so that you can hear it in others.”— Marian Wright Edelman

6.???“In a relationship each person should support the other; they should lift each other up.” — Taylor Swift

7.???"Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love." — Mother Teresa

8.???"Nobody has ever measured, not even poets, how much the heart can hold." — Zelda Fitzgerald

9.???"There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved." — George Sand

10.?"I want you. All of you. Your flaws. Your mistakes. Your imperfections. I want you, and only you." — John Legend

Amos Ologunleko is the Author of Leadership GOT BORN - A Practical Toolkit for Aspiring Leaders and Mentors available online @ Amazon (Kindle + Paperback) and Okadabooks