Te Amo ?: Peace begins when expectations end

Imagine, whenever you receive unexpected calls/messages from your old friends, that time also, your happiness is priceless. When you don’t expect from them, and when Suddenly they do something best for you, you feel immense happiness. Same goes with your life and people by whom you are surrounded. Question is, why we feel that happiness whenever your loved ones does unexpected things for you? Because they make you feel special by giving some special treatment or attention to you. Is it the reason behind your happiness at that time.

Let me burst out bubble here. No, it’s not the reason of your long lasting happiness. You don’t feel that heartwarming happiness because people gives you unexpected surprise or shows unexpected treatment towards you but because your own least expectations from them was the reason behind that soothing happiness. Isn’t it ? And whenever you expected something big from your loved ones, you always suffered, you always felt bad for yourself. You always considered yourself inferior in front of others.

Indirectly by not expecting from others, you plan surprise for yourself in daily routine of your life. It’s deep, think upon it. How to stop expecting from others ? Initially it’s very hard, when we experience ignorance, hurting etc again and again in our life and still keep on loving those people by practising not to expect same love from them in return. Keep on loving, understanding, helping, listening others even if it is hurting you because you are not getting same from them in return, when you need in your hard time. Initially It will hurt you badly. Slowly you will get used to do these things for others by not expecting same from them.

Sometimes you will fail, sometimes you will succeed while going through this process but by practising not to expect from others, finally we attain that situation where we expect nothing/least from anyone. Remember, long- lasting happiness is not in receiving, it’s always in giving. So, give more to others and expect less from them and more from yourself. Smile more and keep sprinkling that drops of smile on others and yourself too.

Braille is a tactile writing system used by people who are visually impaired. It is traditionally written with embossed paper. Visually challenged people read by sensing those bumps embossed on paper. They won’t mind even if you write cuss words on it because they simply can’t feel them. I feel this is the only way to stop expecting. Acting blind. Reading only what people show you. Most of the times, people show us only their good bumps. After all, Nobody likes to show their evil side. When I can’t see their badness then I cannot expect them to change. After implementing this blind-man approach, I stopped expecting from people to love me unconditionally and I don’t want strangers to be a little less rude. I don’t draw imaginary circles of expectation around them anymore.

Suppose your best friend falls severely ill. You then decide to stay beside him in the hospital cabin throughout the night. Even though you may not expect him to do exactly the same thing for you, still you will expect him to at least call you to inquire about your medical condition, in case if you fall ill. And this is how our expectations increase unknowingly, owing to various circumstances. Now imagine a beggar. A needy, homeless man whom you helped someday. Do you expect him to return the favour if you ever turn bankrupt towards the end of the month. Your answer will be ‘NO’. You didn’t keep expectations from him.

Why? Because you were not emotionally attached to him or his problems. You just helped him out of humanity. However, almost the same gesture sowed seeds of expectations in case the person happen to be your close friend or your significant other. Question: How do I stop expecting so much from others? Answer: Don’t go out of your way to help someone because most of the times, your gratitude won’t be reciprocated. If you can stop yourself from doing favours to someone you are attached, only then you can keep less expectations from people. A sincere review from you all would encourage me to write even more. Te Amo ?