TBH #3 Sneha Aneesh - Finding joy in the spaces between

When I first met Aneesh, I had no specific preferences about the kind of person I would marry. My father did, though—he wanted someone who was also an entrepreneur like him, someone who understood the demands and sacrifices of running a business. When Aneesh and I were introduced, I didn’t know much about him, and in fact, we got married within just 25 days of meeting each other. It was an arranged marriage, and everything happened so quickly, but somehow, it felt right.

The entrepreneurial lifestyle didn't surprise me. Having grown up with a businessman father, I was familiar with the late nights, missed holidays, and absent seats at family functions. When Aneesh had to cancel our honeymoon because of work, I understood—his business was now part of our family too.

Like many newlyweds, I started with expectations: "He should do this," or "He should get that for me." But within a year, I realized these weren't necessary. I decided to remove the word "expectation" from my dictionary.

The one thing that has been a constant in my life is yoga. I’ve been practicing yoga since my college days, and it’s something that brings me peace and happiness. After our marriage, Aneesh noticed my dedication to it and gradually developed his own interest.

Our holidays, which once centered around trekking and other activities, began including destinations where we could also practice yoga. Now, yoga is something we share. Every morning, we wake up early—around 4:30 a.m.—and start our day with yoga. It's our time to connect and find calm before the world awakens.

Rather than imposing expectations, Aneesh and I focus on supporting each other's journeys. I choose not to overthink or dwell on potential problems; I prefer to live in the moment. This approach has helped both of us maintain our balance and happiness.

Over the years, Aneesh has grown tremendously too, especially since he started practicing Vipassana. While he’s always been dedicated to work, Vipassana has brought him a new sense of calm.

Previously, work stress would follow him home, even if he didn’t show it outwardly. He'd be physically present but mentally elsewhere. Now, there's a notable change. He’s more relaxed and present, especially with our kids. Even if he has just 15 or 20 minutes to play with them, he’s fully engaged. He’s no longer distracted by emails or phone calls during family time. This shift has been a big positive in our lives.

I'm especially proud of the way he balances work and family. Despite his startup's demands, he prioritizes family time. Whether it's weekends or after lengthy travel, he makes being together count. He often expresses how much he misses us and looks forward to coming home.

Rowdy, our 12-year-old Shih Tzu, adds another dimension to our happiness. A wedding gift from the Capillary team, he's always the first to greet Aneesh at the door when he comes back home, no matter how late the hour. Their bond has brought an extra layer of joy to our home. It’s those little things, like Rowdy waiting at the door, that make our home feel complete.

My advice to other spouses of entrepreneurs is simple: give your partner space, let go of expectations. Be present in your moments together, and let those moments bring you joy. A warm smile, a shared laugh, a simple gesture—these are what make life beautiful. After all, it's not about the big moments, but about choosing love and understanding every single day.