We’ve all encountered that person who thinks they can run the show—whether it’s a micromanaging boss, a controlling friend, or even a family member with a “better” way to do everything. These interactions can turn our stress levels up to eleven, triggering our body’s alarm system. As Bessel van der Kolk notes in "The Body Keeps the Score," stress isn’t just in our heads; it physically impacts us.
So how do we manage our sanity when surrounded by control enthusiasts? Let’s break it down with some practical, relatable strategies:
- Set Boundaries Like a Boss: Think of boundaries as your personal “do not disturb” sign. For example, if your friend insists on picking the restaurant every time, say, “I’d love to choose this time! How about we try that new Thai place?” It’s assertive and puts the ball back in your court.
- Use the Power of “No”: Embrace “no” like it’s your new best friend. If a colleague keeps piling on tasks, respond with, “I appreciate your trust in me, but I can only take on so much. Let’s prioritize.” It’s liberating to reclaim your time.
- Mindfulness Magic: When the controlling vibes hit, pause. Close your eyes and take five deep breaths—picture a peaceful beach or your favorite vacation spot. This quick mental getaway can lower anxiety and help you respond rather than react.
- Self-Care is Non-Negotiable: Whether it’s a walk, yoga, or binge-watching your favorite series, carve out “me time.” For instance, dedicate Sunday mornings to your hobbies—knitting, gardening, or even that neglected book pile. This reinforces your autonomy.
- Seek Allies: Connect with others who share your frustrations. Sometimes, just venting can provide relief and new strategies to handle the control-freakery.
By implementing these tactics, you’ll not only reclaim your power but also maintain your sanity. Remember, your body keeps score—so let’s ensure it’s winning!
