Talking About Resistance

(This article was written in 2003)

I was in the office the other day and I noticed that my boss was talking and, all of a sudden, I didn’t feel the scenery of this conversation as I normally do.

I used to notice that he would say things that would underline issues of authority, power and control. And this bothered me, maybe because I was struggling with wanting to be a free soul.

Then I also felt that he would always check my face (and I guess, everyone else’s?) for a reaction of confirmation that I knew what he was talking about and if I didn’t react, he would grow impatient. I think he liked to know that I was in control of my job, which means that he could relax and didn’t need to worry that there could be a problem or a gap in the department and that he might need to spend some time and energy sorting it out. He wanted to know that he could trust me.

So then I thought to myself that if I could use a strategy of not showing a reaction in response to my feelings, I could buy some time during a conversation, even if it was a few seconds, which would give me the opportunity to think what to say in a more efficient way. You see, sometimes we think people can read what we think… and maybe they can… but maybe not!

So I came to the conclusion that it is all to do with boundaries.

Reading my Animal Strategy cards, I found the medicine that I was looking for: Opossum.

Opossum tells us that the best strategy is sometimes a no-strategy. If you don’t defend something, if you don’t argue about something, if you don’t show that something bothers you… people move on to the next target, so as to speak, since we are continuously engaged in a tug of war for energy and this is represented in games of manipulation, giving and taking balance-unbalances, and other emotional patterns.

I believe that until one achieves a certain level of spiritual growth, one’s ego does try to run the business of living and this is why we find it difficult to come to an agreement with others, or allow others to express their true opinions… in case we are challenged, or proven wrong, or simply our unresolved fears get tickled in a very uncomfortable way.

So when you don’t react, you are not showing the emotional buttons that can be pressed in you.

People love a reaction to a provocation. That is the fun in it. If there is not a reaction, they get bored and move on to pick on someone else. This is the game, and all the players must participate.

If you don’t participate, you may be labelled such as living in your own little world or being boring or being aloof, etc. This is simply because you are not filling others’ expectations of you. You are not fitting in. You are not playing their game.

When you don’t react, you are actually avoiding friction or resistance. By doing this, you are giving yourself a much bigger area for growth because other people do not set up your limits or boundaries. You do!

The next thing that happens is that you automatically become an observer, an outsider in the game. And the amount of learning you can do is amazing just by watching the exchanges of energy among others. It is a very privileged position to have, a position that some people cannot achieve in a lifetime because it entails dropping whom you used to be and give yourself a chance to grow into someone new, someone much more powerful, with many more resources, and someone with the opportunity to start creating your life instead of reacting to all the external circumstances.

When you start allowing the energies to take their course, they flow in the direction they are meant to. You then can choose where you focus your attention and, therefore, your energy, so you start shaping your reality because intention creates your experience. In a word, you become a magician!

How?

Well; you realise that as you focus on a thought, the reality associated with this thought seems to come to you. Do you ever have the realisation that something comes to your life (it can be something as small as a friend’s letter or something as big as a new job/ relationship) just as you had been thinking about it? What you actually did was to attract the external manifestation of your thought or seed of your intention. This is what is called creation. Once you learn the trick, you can start creating bigger and more wonderful things!

We miss the point when our ego decides that it wants to be the centre of stage and fights back by placing seeds of doubt in your mind. The most important thing is to realise that our senses are the navigation panels of our body or physical vehicle and that the creative side of our nature or intuition is the captain giving instructions and directions on where to guide our physical gear.

It takes huge strength to bend your ego into accepting intuitive guidance. Here the main ingredient is faith. Faith allows us to be strong enough to let go without needing the clear and obvious support of physical boundaries or reasons, explanations, justifications… or proof!

The great thing about it is that, as you focus on your intentions (for instance, you don’t ask for a car but you focus on the feeling of freedom, movement, speed and independence that this gives you; or you don’t ask for a three bedroom house but you focus on the feeling of safety, comfort, warmth, privacy that this would give you, comprendes?) you start creating a path where people, friends, family, work, relationships, synchronicities, occurrences… seem to line up, and a corridor is created where the flow of who you are can reach others, and, BINGO! COMMUNICATION occurs!

Your soul will naturally guide you to communicate your gifts more fully.

So now you are becoming the architect of your life, the designer of your future. Your mind becomes inspiration, your body becomes stamina (you are now working with the natural rhythms of your body since you stop pushing yourself when the energy is not there) and your spirit becomes your purpose.

Things around you simplify. Because you start strengthening yourself, you need fewer things, you spend less money on things you really didn’t need but thought were buying you some happiness or comfort. Food stops being an issue of anxiety and emotional support and becomes sustenance. You can say no to people and you waste less time doing things that others thought should be your priorities. You are in charge. And it feels awesome!

For the first time in your life, you have control because you released all control. You have love because you stopped buying and selling who you are. Your need for acceptance disappears because you love yourself anyway, so there is nothing or no-one you need to be in order to love yourself.

Do you see the pattern?

 And because you are happier in your skin, literally, you attract others at the same level. And they also like you, love you and accept you. And all you have to do is stop doing! (Why didn’t anyone tell me this before…?).

The secret is to get your mind-body-spirit prepared for it. Then it becomes possible. Reality changes to align itself to your focused mind in a natural and effortless way.

So focus on what you want and let your intuition dictate your steps. It may take one month or ten years, but you will become much more powerful in the process. And a much happier person for it!

They say anything is possible.

I say anything is possible… when you are ready for it.

From Ebook: “Practical Spirituality I (Finding Spirit in Everyday Life)” 

Ebook: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B007CLOIH6

Book: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1726736717

 “Practical Spirituality is a compilation of spiritual articles written as a means of inspiration for those who enjoy reading spiritually based literature. Through them, I intend to give you different perspectives, a detached outlook, and my personal insight so that they can help you shift your view of your present reality and realize that we always have a choice and that it is this choice which makes the difference between a life of struggle and a life of empowerment”.

 Copyright ? Dr Ana Garcia PhD, DTM (2003 – 2019)

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