TALK it out rather than FRET out.
Shikha Pandey
Clutter To Clarity | I help professionals gain clarity, redefine success and build mental toughness to grow and get unstuck in life, in just 12 weeks.
Suffering arises from trying to control what is uncontrollable, or from neglecting what is within our power - Epictetus
The feeling of lack of control or wanting to control everything around can be a big stress trigger as it leaves one feeling off center, scattered, overwhelmed, overworked and mismanaged. And when these emotions arise, they trigger the feeling of lack of control even more and we find ourselves in a vicious circle of stress.
I say this so confidently because I have been there. In my initial years at work, I was part of a very young and dynamic team. I loved working with them but the team had a pattern of sitting for brainstorming post 7pm on most days. And also over weekends sometimes!! Initial fews days were fine but as this continued, I just started to feel overwhelmed and felt like I was missing out on my personal life because post office I always wanted to sit by the sea to unwind and read a book. Over a period of time, I started dreading these meetings and the stress kept me awake at night, I would get up late, then reach office late (which nobody minded since we were sitting till late too), my meal times got messed up due to which I started getting headaches and I got no time to unwind. Result was the onset of stress that reflected in my work as well. Luckily my boss noticed this change and asked me if something was bothering me and I told her what it was. She laughed out loud and said why could you not tell me this before. We all have always worked like this because it worked for everyone but you are new and if this doesn’t work for you then we can meet sooner and be done by 7pm. I was surprised, glad and also learnt the most important lessons of my career -?
it’s best to talk it out rather than fret out!
So here’s a step wise guide that I followed throughout my corporate career when I felt scattered and overwhelmed at work:
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One key tool in addressing the factor of feeling out of control - that triggers the stress response, that eventually leads to burn out - is having an open and impeccable communication and the patience to allow the change to unfold. And this takes practice and overcoming the fear of being put down. But the fact is, when we ask or state our concern, most of the time we find a solution or a middle ground. Even in times when the suggestion is not accepted, just stating it makes the other person become aware of it and they tend to start paying attention to it.?
Patience & keeping the communication ongoing are key in influencing a situation.?
PS: Nothing in this world is worth your mental peace and you can always make a choice of protecting it, without guilt.?
Choose not to burn out! Take Care.
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1 年Shikha, thanks for sharing!
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2 年Just now saw Souniya Khurana 's video also on this topic... Very important thing to focus on as we navigate the post pandemic world
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2 年Burnout is a real thing. Better to talk it out.
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2 年Well said! Thankyou for sharing this amazing article ???? Shikha Pandey
Well put Shikha. I've also experienced the hard way that it's best to discuss anything that's bothering us than to keep it bottled in and take stress.