Taking Control Of Your Emotions (Part 1)

WELCOME to the Reset-Reimagine newsletter - your weekly actionable insights to help you live a purposeful life! I have been writing a blog for a few months all around the topics of harnessing the power of your mind, finding your purpose, and not letting your past dictate your future. You can read my story and catch up an all the previous blogs at www.reset-reimagine.com.

Through years of research and personal experience, I realised that there are only 3 reasons why people generally get stuck in life, 1 - our mind begins to dictate and becomes our worst enemy, 2 - we have no real dream or purpose for living, so “why bother” becomes a regular mantra or 3 – we’ve had some painful experiences that are holding us back, and this can often lead us to try to self soothe through various means.??

Here’s the good news, you only need to focus on one of these to make massive steps towards living a more purposeful life. In these weekly newletters I will help you to realize which of these is the dominant thing holding you back and give you some actionable insights to flip the situation from your mind being your worst enemy to being your best friend, from having no purpose, to having an awesome inspiring and exciting dream to go after, and to use your past experience as rocket fuel to pursuing your dreams rather than being more bricks in the backpack of life holding you back.??

Mind, mood and outcomes

SO….who and what, are you letting decide your mood and your outcomes???Have you ever wondered why your and others' moods go up and down??

I want you to stop reading this and play your all-time favourite song and I want you to let yourself make some moves, you might need to stand up – nobody is watching you, so be creative and expressive with your moves.?(Totally gave the game away on my music taste!)

What changed....so what?

I bet your energy level changed with some of you moving your arms around, playing some air guitars, or having a little dance...BUT your energy changed.??

So what..........We’ve all been around people with low energy (I call them "mood hoovers") and we know what we feel like when we have a low mood - we make poor judgements and decisions?

We also know what happens when we are around people with high energy (energisers, encouragers) and when we are feeling in a good mood - we make better judgements and decisions?

When we say or talk about energy, we are really talking about our inner feelings, in other words, it is a reflection of how we are feeling inside?

Different types of energy

There are many different types of energy:

• High positive - energetic, enthusiastic
• Low positive - reflective, grateful
• High negative - angry, hostile
• Low negative - worried, dejected, passive-aggressive?

Our ability to manage and direct our energy is a hugely important factor in helping us to be as effective as we can be, especially if we are trying to RESET and REIMAGINE parts or all of our life.

Here is a chart called the mood elevator, which some may have come across before, which was originally put together by a company called Senn Delaney who I have used to help deliver a cultural revolution within the organisation I work for?- it is so simple but SO transformational!??Read on?to find out how it works!

Which part of the elevator are you likely to make better decisions, have better ideas, have a better day

• The?upper floors?where you are feeling grateful, wise, hopeful, resourceful?

Which part of the elevator are you likely to make poor decisions, struggle to have ideas, have a bad day

• The lower floors where you are feeling angry, depressed, judgemental, defensive?

This is transformational for everyday living, and even more so if we are needing a life RESET, and a way to REIMAGINE our lives

As humans we ride the elevator up and down all day long - the higher up we are, the more perspective we have - we can see farther and clearer I.e. we make better decisions which leads to better outcomes

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So why is this relevant?

If we know?where?we are on the mood elevator, we can make adjustments, which impacts how we act or react to things happening around us

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Or putting it a different way, our behaviour is not the result of our ability, but of the state that we’re in at this moment?- this is transformational and fully supported by science

Numerous studies have now confirmed that the mind can change even in the most challenging circumstances - i.e. we are not victims of our biology or circumstances, rather it is how we react to events and circumstances of life which have an enormous impact on our mental and physical health.?I cover this in much more detail in?The 28-Day RESET Challenge

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But how can we change our mood?

That's a great question

If we go back to the mood elevator picture, the mid point is “curious” - being curious can change how we see situations, people and conversations.?Let's take a look at an example:?

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Let's say I am feeling low because someone has just cut me up in traffic - I could stay at the bottom of the elevator (angry, frustrated…) or I could get curious as to why they just cut me up, perhaps they had not spotted me, perhaps they are rushing someone to hospital….- if I can try to see things from the other person's perspective, it can help me process it better and more effectively….the end outcome being that I realise this is not worth getting all angry and frustrated about it and can move back up the mood elevator?

Being curious is all about asking good questions, sometimes to ourselves, sometimes to others - in the next blog, let's explore??

Question - do you need to take back control of your mind, find your purpose and stop bad habits or negative thought patterns from holding you back?

If you need some help getting clarity on your purpose or for finding a way to kick a bad habit, addiction, negative thought patterns, or for taking back control of your mind, I have something which can help you - join the?28-Day RESET Challenge?TODAY.

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What is the 28-Day RESET Challenge?

It's your roadmap from a habit, addiction or negative thought patterns, to living a purpose filled life, using your mind and a proven, research-based formula, giving you a fast start to success.?Click the link to go straight there NOW -?28-Day RESET Challenge

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To your freedom and success

Jules

Founder, The RESET Challenge