Take Time For Your Marriage
Odds are, if you have spoken to me, we have discussed family. Cannot help it. Want to know about yours and want to share with you about mine. Sue me.
Sounds beautiful, right?
Not enough.
By a long shot.
Talking about them is sweet and letting people gush about theirs is kind. However, it does not count for the actual family members who cannot hear all of these accolades.
Particularly spouses.
Children get plenty of love. That is what grandparents are for.
If you have a family, your career is dependent on how happy we are at home. I am sure of it.
Even though I have seen and heard this multiple times over the years, I was reminded of it recently. My wife and I celebrated 15 years of marriage this year. Suffice to say that I married well above my pay grade.
Our actual anniversary was in April. We had a quick dinner at a local restaurant. Pleasant, not exactly celebratory.
She decided to be proactive and planned a trip for us to Mexico. 5 days of just us. No little Matt wannabees running around.
Both of us have busy careers with people depending on us. Yet, she made the time to organize it.
Ironically, came back feeling grateful for my wife, children and career. Gave me some perspective on how much I love recruiting and where I do it.
Because I took a break with someone that means everything to me.
My point is this, folks. Time passes in a marriage and it is easier than easy to fall into a pattern every year. Hear it regularly from successful executives. Missed out on living while they were focused on their grind.
You want to continue enjoying your career and not simply work?
Go plan a trip with your spouse. Reconnect. Easiest way is to put money down. Once the credit card is given then the dam breaks. No turning back now.
As we make time for our clients, bosses, workmates - make time for our life partners.
When the job ends (and it will end) they will be the one sitting there.
In the meantime, make the most of each you lucky devil. Got the best of both worlds if we give them their due.
Matt Kaufman works for and with The Mullings Group. We are the premier medical device executive search firm in the world. He is surrounded by workmates in great relationships while loving their careers. Not a coincidence. Matt is still trying to decide between Tequila (Reposado and Anejo) and Mezcal. Seems more tasting is in order...
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7 年Matt, I shared your work in all my social media channels.
Humility is not thinking less of yourself; it's thinking of yourself less. Sales Professional developing new Market opportunities in New England and PA @ VaxCare | New Business Development, CRM, Leading from the Middle.
7 年Totally agree Matt! Thanks for writing this
And if you manage people - Do Not make them cancel vacations! Especially repeatedly and for trivial reasons. This is not good for employee morale or motivation.
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7 年Lost a marriage and a family over workaholism and three tours downrange in 5 years; the new sammie and I are doing it right this time! :D
Senior Partner at The Mullings Group
7 年Hello Dave. Means a lot coming from someone who clearly gets it (and lives it). We do the same as far as tickets go. Seen some great shows and some that have become funny memories. Thanks for contributing. Congratulations on your marriage and making time for who matters.