Take this with a grain of salt!

Top of the weekend my friends! Take this with a grain of salt!

The story I’m about to share should be “taken with a grain of salt”. Since I have no real expertise in this area. However I have prayed, fasted and served faithfully at almost 20 women’s conferences. More importantly I listened to what they had to say. So I’m here to share what I’ve learned but remember “Take this with a grain of salt”!

Pain in a good relationship is always memorable. Some couples learn from their challenges. While others find reason to say “I quit this is unbearable”! Yet to quote the “Empress of Soul” Gladys Knight “Neither one of us wants to be the first say goodbye”.

There is a glimmer of hope for those who are willing to wait for more strength. Hopefully this saga will help make yours a happy home!

First, Merriam-Webster defines “take it with a grain of salt” as a skeptical attitude. It’s used to encourage people to look at something with some reservation as there’s a chance it could be untrue or misleading.

The origins of this phrase aren’t one hundred percent clear. Some believe that it originated in ancient times—specifically, in 77 A.D. from Pliny the Elder. Who used the phrase when translating an antidote for poison, saying to “take it with a grain of salt”. (Wikipedia)

When it comes to matrimony “I’ve got to use my imagination”. Since I’ve never been married. Most whose survive, know to gotta keep on keeping on! It’s hard to measure the exact importance of being a good listener. I firmly believe it’s the glue of a long term relationship and without that gift there’s no common ground.

Suggestion: set aside time at least once week to address your minor eccentricities? Or how to gingerly deal with the occasional pathological issues for the week. If the sin of unforgiveness, makes itself comfortable in your home? Try to remember “The Way We Were”.

It’s a fact in every marriage. There are days when you can’t talk or reason with each other. On days like that It’s hard to find common ground.? “I heard it through? the grapevine”. When people keep moving from relationship to relationship generally they’ve? got to use their imagination. To think of good reasons to keep on pushing on. You know?

For instance, my "Brothers" here’s one - “If you loved me you would know”? This accusation zeros in on a loving man’s endearing imperfections. Here’s why? Men Hear but Woman Listen!

This is why I bring this up. She told you something really important while your mind was divided. (Possibly watching the game) You heard and could even repeat what she said. However when she asked later what does that mean? Busted!!! Now for the next 20 years, you’ll be reminded of this faux pas.

On the other hand, Girlfriend!? “Women Listen but they Don’t Hear”! What does that mean? While the man is trying to answer your relationship narrative. You’ll hear a word or phrase. Which triggers a response. Then you interrupt, “the Man” not allowing him to finish. Or wait until He finishes only to say "What did you mean when you said …?"

A misperception occurs that usurps his good intention. Important note, if both of you hadn’t been talking regularly, she may start a serious argument on purpose. By the way, it’s at that moment she needs you more than you’ll ever know. Take this with a grain of salt!

Every body needs love! I’lll close with? Gladys Knight’s “Your Number One in My Book” and that’s the salt of the earth my friends! Don’t ever forget it!