Take the first step

Yesterday is gone, the day before and day before that, before we know it time has passed us by and eventually years have gone by. I ask how many of us are holding to old desires, wants, needs that have not been met for one reason or the other. I bet if we sat back and reflected there would be many of us. Its hard letting go I know believe me I have been in that vicious cycle and all it did was just made me more miserable. Letting go takes courage, time of course and one needs to be able to reflect and see what holding on to pain unwanted unnecessary pain does to them.

 For years I struggled with pain caused by many of those who I would call family, related by blood. They were my world because it was all that I knew. It took many sleepless nights, struggles with anxiety, immense pain to overcome the challenges of releasing myself from years of hurt. I worked hard on not wishing bad for those who wronged me. I know it’s tough to overcome such a difficult journey situation when inside of me there was rage, frustration and much anger. However I learnt to forgive by been in control of my emotional state and not let my adrenalin get the better of me.  One of my ethics in life is that we have to lead by example to be better human beings and for this reason it’s important to shows others that it can be done. I want to prove to others that kindness, love no matter what always conquers in the end. Not everyone who wrongs others has to suffer in the same way but instead speak to them about their wrong doings in a manner that your voice is such that it brings the others tone of voice down, help those who don’t understand about kindness become a better person, smile often, try engage them in a meaningful conversation often when others are angry or looking miserable they are dealing with their own issues. It sad state of affairs  today that there are not enough many eg of kindness so much rage and anger, family when they distance from each other, they take away their children too, cousins don’t get to play or share childhood memories and too often in some cousins people don’t even know that they are related. Let go of the past, make up, talk it through its ok to take the first step, be that better person, life is just too short, no point having regrets when those who meant something to you at one time have gone and you wish you had made up.