Take care and be gentle-criticism can be a painful reminder of a need to change direction??

Criticising with kindness is an art that can save you a hundred days of sorrow. Understanding the different types of criticism and learning how to deal with critical people is an art that can save you lots of heartaches.

Before you criticise - stop and think of your purpose. Be gentle and only criticise from a base of love.

“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is no effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows, in the end, the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat.” Theodore Roosevelt

Criticism, like rain, should be gentle enough to nourish a man’s growth without destroying his roots.– Frank A. Clark

People tend to criticise their spouse most loudly in the area where they themselves have the deepest emotional need. –?Gary Chapman

Criticism is the disapproval of people, not for having faults, but for having faults different from your own. –?Unknown

Before you go and criticise the younger generation, just remember who raised them. –?Unknown

Criticism may not be agreeable, but it is necessary. It fulfils the same function as pain in the human body. It calls attention to an unhealthy state of things. –?Winston Churchill

Do what you feel in your heart to be right – for you’ll be criticised anyway. You’ll be damned if you do, and damned if you don’t. –?Eleanor Roosevelt

If we judge ourselves only by our aspirations and everyone else only by their conduct, we shall soon reach a very false conclusion. – Calvin Coolidge

The final proof of greatness lies in being able to endure criticism without resentment. –?Elbert Hubbard

When we speak evil of others, we generally condemn ourselves. –?Publius Syrus

He who throws dirt always loses ground. –?Unknown

The critic has to educate the public; the artist has to educate the critic. –?Oscar Wilde

You’re never as good as everyone tells you when you win, and you’re never as bad as they say when you lose.–?Lou Holtz

Don’t criticise what you can’t understand.–?Bob Dylan

Flatter me, and I may not believe you. Criticise me, and I may not like you. Ignore me, and I may not forgive you. Encourage me, and I will not forget you. Love me and I may be forced to love you. –?William Arthur Ward

Analyses of others are actually expressions of our own needs and values. –?Marshall Rosenberg

Don’t be distracted by criticism. Remember, the only taste of success some people have is when they take a bite out of you.–?Zig Ziglar

I much prefer the sharpest criticism of a single intelligent man to the thoughtless approval of the masses.– Johannes Kepler

Take criticism, smash it into dust, add colour & use it to paint breathtaking images of unicorns frolicking thru endless fields of greatness. – Matthew Gray Gubler

As a matter of fact, we are none of us above criticism; so let us bear with each other’s faults. – L. Frank Baum

Having the critics praise you is like having the hangman say you’ve got a pretty neck. – Eli Wallach

If you say something and reject any criticism, then your words truly meant to advise yourself. – Toba Beta

Criticism demands infinitely more culture than artistic creation. – Pierre Bayard

One mustn’t criticise other people on grounds where he can’t stand perpendicular himself. –?Mark Twain

He has a right to criticise who has the heart to help.?– Abraham Lincoln

Strength and growth come only through continuous effort and struggle.–?Napoleon Hill

You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something sometime in your life.–?Winston Churchill

If your heart acquires strength, you will be able to remove blemishes from others without thinking evil of them.?–?Mohandas K. Gandhi

When men speak ill of thee, live so as nobody may believe them. –?Plato

My opinions and principles are subjects of just criticism. –?Victoria Woodhull

Most people have been brainwashed into believing that their job is to copyedit the world, not to design it. –?Seth Godin

A creative life cannot be sustained by approval any more than it can be destroyed by criticism.?– Will Self

The individual must not merely wait and criticise, he must defend the cause the best he can. The fate of the world will be such as the world deserves.–?Albert Einstein

Don’t criticise what you don’t understand, son. You never walked in that man’s shoes. –?Elvis Presley

What distinguishes modern art from the art of other ages is criticism. –?Octavio Paz

If someone criticises you, give them a compliment.–?Debasish Mridha

The criminal is the creative artist; the detective only the critic.–?G.K. Chesterton

Don’t criticise them; they are just what we would be under similar circumstances. –?Abraham Lincoln

Any fool can criticise, condemn, and complain but it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving. –?Dale Carnegie

Boredom, after all, is a form of criticism.–?Wendell Phillips

If we are bold enough to point out problems, we must be brave enough to try to solve them.–?Robert Alan Silverstein

When virtues are pointed out first, flaws seem less insurmountable. –?Judith Martin

The pleasure of criticizing takes away from us the pleasure of being moved by some very fine things.–?Jean de La Bruyere

Concern over criticism clogs creativity. –?Duane Alan Hahn

Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people. – Eleanor Roosevelt

Criticism is an indirect form of self-boasting. – Emmit Fox

Think not those faithful who praise all thy words and actions; but those who kindly reprove thy faults. –?Socrates

The trouble with most of us is that we’d rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism. –?Norman Vincent Peale

Think before you speak is criticism’s motto; speak before you think, creation’s.–?E. M. Forster

It is much more valuable to look for strength in others. You can gain nothing by criticising their imperfections.–?Daisaku Ikeda

Critics sometimes appear to be addressing themselves to works other than those I remember writing. –?Joyce Carol Oates

If we judge ourselves only by our aspirations and everyone else only their conduct we shall soon reach a very false conclusion. –?Calvin Coolidge

When we judge or criticise another person, it says nothing about that person; it merely says something about our own need to be critical. –?Unknown

You can’t let praise or criticism get to you. It’s a weakness to get caught up in either one. – John Wooden

Criticism is an indirect form of self-boasting.– Emmet Fox

I criticize by creation, not by finding fault. –?Marcus Tullius Cicero

Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain and most fools do.– Benjamin Franklin

I have yet to find the man, however exalted his station, who did not do better work and put forth greater effort under a spirit of approval than under a spirit of criticism. –?Charles Schwab

Let me never fall into the vulgar mistake of dreaming that I am persecuted whenever I am contradicted. –?Ralph Waldo Emerson

A critic is a legless man who teaches running. –?Channing Pollock

The pleasure we feel in criticising robs us from being moved by very beautiful things.–?Jean De La Bruyere

Frequent and poorly delivered criticism is a breeder of conflict in personal and work relationships and can trigger anger, resentment, withdrawal, stress and anxiety. Any fool can criticise, condemn and complain.?Artists build and create something out of nothing. Critics destroy something to make it into?nothingness.?It is easier to be a critic than an artist; before you criticise someone’s work, try to be an artist first.?

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