Surround Yourself with Success
Who do you spend the most time with? What are these people like? How much influence does this inner circle of intimates exert on your thoughts and feelings and actions?
It’s an intriguing set of questions because our closest associates can play a major role in how we live our lives. Does that surprise you? Have you ever heard the expression that you’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with? Is that an idea that makes you smile?? Or does it make you recoil in horror?
You might find that it’s well worth taking some time to assess the kind of people you’re spending the most time with because, day by day, they’re the people you’re going to become.
Surround yourself with good people; surround yourself with positivity and people who are going to challenge you to make you better.
-?????? Ali Krieger
The concept that underpins this observation is simple enough. It suggests that we all tend to become more and more like the people we spend the most time with. Does that make sense to you?
When you think about it for a moment, it makes a lot of sense. Humans are social animals and the way we integrate ourselves with any group of individuals is to become more like them, to adopt their mannerisms, their speech patterns and their behaviour. And it’s such a subtle process that you might not even notice that it’s happening.
I think it's important to get your surroundings as well as yourself into a positive state - meaning surround yourself with positive people, not the kind who are negative and jealous of everything you do.
-?????? Heidi Klum
There are countless applications to this powerful observation and it’s important to consider how other people might be influencing your behaviour. Take for example your prospective boss. A great piece of advice when you’re going for a new job is to take a cool, careful look at the person you’re going to be working for. Why would that be important, you might ask? Because there’s a huge risk that you’re looking at a reflection of who you’re going to become in five years’ time! I know. That can be a very scary thought indeed.
The same principle applies to people who might not understand the importance of having serious goals to aim for in life. It’s astonishing how colleagues, friends and family can unwittingly conspire to demolish your hopes and dreams and ambitions. It’s just more comfortable to be like the individuals who don’t like to push themselves or strive for something better. They sow the seeds of doubt in your heart and mind and seem to relish every setback and failure you endure. They like to remind you that success only belongs to crooks or people who are ‘lucky’ – rather than connecting success with hard work, dedication, discipline and dedication.
We’re taught to conform from very early childhood. We receive smiles and praise for being sociable and compliant. It’s an integral part of our conditioning. And we’re not suggesting that the answer to this particular challenge is to become anti-social. Far from it.
A better answer is to develop a much higher degree of awareness, particularly in terms of the people you spend the most time with.
That means taking notice of how people express themselves. Whether they use positive or negative language. Whether they encourage you. Or stifle you. Whether they make excuses. Or resolutions to try harder. Whether they blame others. Or take responsibility for their actions and for the outcomes.
If you find that the people you spend most time with are more negatively inclined, then it’s a clear signal to take action. As well as noticing that their behaviour is not the way you would choose to express yourself, look for people who lift you up. Make a point of socialising with people who are positive, uplifting, encouraging and an example of how you want your life to evolve. The differences might astonish you. It’s immensely beneficial to surround yourself with positive people, individuals who can reinforce your ambition and provide real-life examples of how to succeed. There are plenty of people out there who meet these criteria. Your job right now is to find a way to identify them and spend more time with them.
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Try new things, step out of your comfort zone, take risks, do things in ways you've never done them before, ask for help, surround yourself with self-actualized people, become obsessed with the fact that you have one go-round on this planet as the you that is you, and realize how precious and important it is not to squander that.
-?????? Jen Sincero
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