Surprise! Stress Isn’t the Bad Guy We Thought It Was
Brant Garvey
Performance & Resilience Coach/Speaker | Helping High-Performing Professionals Achieve Their Top Career Goals Without Burnout
Quick question: How do you feel about stress? Like, really? If you’re thinking, “Ugh, stress is a nightmare,” I’ve got news for you. It turns out that stress, that sneaky little gremlin we all love to hate, might just be misunderstood. Kelly McGonigal, in an eye-opening TED Talk, spills the beans on how stress can be more of a high-five than a facepalm for our health. So, let's turn that stress frown upside down and see what’s up.
Viewing Stress Positively
How It Works: When you switch gears and start seeing stress as a helpful buddy, your body goes, “Oh, cool, we’re doing this? Let’s go!” instead of “Alert! Alert! Panic mode!” This mindset shift can literally chill out your blood vessels and keep your heart happier.
Actionable Tip: Next time stress knocks on your door, instead of going “Not you again,” try “Hey, let’s do this.” See it as a brain gym, flexing those mental muscles.
Mistake to Avoid: Pretending stress is invisible. Ignoring it is like leaving a smoothie out in the sun. Not helpful and kinda messy.
Stress as a Social Connector
How It Works: Stress is like that friend who’s always nudging you to mingle at parties. It’s actually a signal to reach out and connect with your human tribe. It releases oxytocin, the cuddle hormone, making you more ready for teamwork and empathy.
Actionable Tip: When stressed, don’t go solo. Text a friend, take a class, or just share a joke with someone. It’s like turning stress into social superglue.
Mistake to Avoid: Lone wolfing it. Stress is your cue to socialise, not to hide in your stress-den.
The Power of Oxytocin
How It Works: This cool hormone, oxytocin, is like your body’s own stress-busting superhero. It jumps in, reducing inflammation and giving your heart cells a pep talk, all while making you feel all warm and fuzzy.
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Actionable Tip: Do things that boost oxytocin – hug a friend, help a neighbour with their groceries, or join a community garden. It’s like giving your body a high-five.
Mistake to Avoid: Seeing stress as just a brain thing. It’s a full-body experience, and oxytocin is your body’s way of high-fiving you back.
Caring for Others How It Works: Here’s the plot twist: stress can make you a kindness ninja. When you’re stressed and choose to help others, it’s like turning your stress into a power-up for both you and them.
Actionable Tip: Next time you're stressed, channel it into caring. Make someone a cup of tea, volunteer, or just listen. It’s like stress alchemy, turning stress into gold.
Mistake to Avoid: Thinking you can’t help others because you’re too stressed. Flip that script! Helping others can be your stress secret weapon.
Embracing Challenges
How It Works: Stress is like the ultimate coach for life’s big game. It’s there to pump you up and get you ready for the challenges. Embracing it can lead to new skills and epic personal growth.
Actionable Tip: See stress as your personal trainer. Let it push you to learn new things, take on that scary project, or just try cooking something wild.
Mistake to Avoid: Avoiding challenges to dodge stress. You might miss out on some of life’s coolest adventures.
So, let’s set the record straight: Stress isn't the antagonist in our life's epic tale. Instead, think of it as the unexpected ally, aiding the hero (yes, that's you!) in discovering hidden strengths. Kelly McGonigal's TED Talk offers a fresh perspective, revealing that stress isn't a stumbling block; it's a catalyst for your ascent to greatness. ??????