Sure, You'll Be Grand': How Five Words Are Killing Ireland's Youth
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Sure, You'll Be Grand': How Five Words Are Killing Ireland's Youth

I moved to Ireland 13 years ago, just as the Celtic Tiger was taking its last breath. Money was drying up, hope was fading, but something deeper was brewing—a crisis no one wanted to see.

As an outsider, I noticed things locals had learned to ignore. The quiet desperation in country pubs. The whispered rumors about someone’s kid “having problems.” The silence—heavy, unrelenting—around anything to do with mental health.

Thirteen years later, that silence isn’t just tragic. It’s deadly, but not the good kind of deadly. Not the 'that's deadly, lads!' you hear on Henry Street.


Two Irelands

On the surface, Ireland has transformed. Gay marriage is celebrated. Abortion laws have been reformed. Dublin’s streets hum with the accents of tech workers from all over the world. This is a country that feels modern, progressive, and open.

But scratch beneath the surface, and the scars remain.

The reality? Ireland has the fourth-highest cocaine usage rate in the world.

Suicide is still the leading cause of death for young men under 25.

Meanwhile, the mental health system—underfunded and overwhelmed—fails thousands every day.

The old habits—the shame, the silence, the stoicism—haven’t gone away. They’ve just gone underground.


The Numbers Don’t Lie

Let’s talk about the facts:

  • Ireland is rich—one of Europe’s wealthiest nations.
  • Yet only 6.1% of its health budget goes to mental health care. Other wealthy countries spend around 12% to 14%.
  • Over 10,000 adults and 8,500 children are waiting for mental health support. Many will wait more than a year.

These aren’t just numbers. They’re lives—lives stalled, lives spiraling, lives cut short because help came too late, or not at all.

To put it bluntly: prevention is cheaper than crisis care. But Ireland keeps choosing the expensive way to fail its people.


Rural Ireland: Where Silence Screams

In rural Ireland, the crisis is magnified by distance and neglect.

The pub used to be a refuge—a place to share worries, even unspoken ones. Now, one in five rural pubs has shut its doors, and nothing has replaced them. Doctors’ offices are disappearing too. Mental health services? Almost non-existent.

I’ve seen it:

  • Farmers walking empty fields, their silent burdens growing heavier.
  • Teenagers stuck in their bedrooms, miles from the nearest therapist.
  • Mothers crying in kitchens, their only comfort the hope that tomorrow will be better.

Suicide rates in rural areas are twice as high as in cities. Why? Because if you need help in the countryside, good luck getting it. No services. No transport. No options.


City Problems: Where Wealth and Desperation Collide

In the cities, the problem looks different—but it’s just as deadly.

Dublin is booming. Tech workers earn big salaries, sipping €4 coffees in neighborhoods where people destroyed by mental illness live unseen. If you can afford €200 an hour, therapy is a phone call away. If you can’t, you join a waiting list that might outlast you.

This creates a cruel divide: mental health becomes a luxury for the privileged.

Emergency rooms—designed to treat broken bones and bleeding wounds—are now flooded with people in mental health crises. Last year alone, 1 in 4 Irish adults reported symptoms of anxiety or depression. The system isn’t coping.


The Irish Way: When Humor Hurts

Ireland’s humor is a beautiful thing—a survival mechanism through generations of hardship. But sometimes, it’s a mask.

“Sure, you’ll be grand.” At first, I thought it was friendly. Now I know it can be a way to shut down hard conversations.

Here’s something that shocked me: until 1993, suicide was illegal in Ireland.

The law’s changed, but the shame hasn’t. At too many funerals, the truth stays buried with the dead.


Drugs, Drink, and Desperation

In 13 years, I’ve watched cocaine become as common as a pint. Ireland now ranks fourth in the world for cocaine use.

It’s not just Dublin nightlife—cocaine is everywhere: in rural towns, at college parties, on construction sites. It’s cheap, accessible, and used to numb a pain people can’t talk about.

And then there’s alcohol. One in five Irish adults drinks to dangerous levels.

Pubs are closing, but the drinking hasn’t stopped. It’s moved to living rooms and lonely kitchens.

Drugs and alcohol don’t create mental illness. They mask it. Until they don’t.


The Kids Aren’t Alright

Young people today are fighting battles older generations can’t imagine.

Social media floods them with unrealistic expectations. Schools pile on academic pressure. Parents, though well-meaning, want perfect kids. And when young people can’t cope?

There’s nowhere to turn.

More young Irish men die by suicide than from any other cause. That statistic should shake everyone awake. Instead, it gets buried in the news cycle, mentioned once, and forgotten.


Local Heroes: Fighting Back

Amid the failures, there’s hope. Communities are stepping in where the government has walked away.

  • Boxing clubs train coaches to spot the signs of suicide.
  • Farmers’ groups bring men together to talk about depression.
  • Youth centers provide safe spaces for kids who feel unseen.

I’ve seen these efforts change lives. But they’re patchwork solutions. They can’t fix a broken system.


The System is Broken

If you break your leg in Ireland, you’re treated immediately. If your mind breaks, you’re told to wait.

Family doctors lack the training or time to address mental health properly. Emergency rooms become the last resort, but they’re ill-equipped to handle the flood of patients. And while people wait for help, they fall apart.

The sad truth? Prevention is cheaper than crisis care. But Ireland keeps choosing the expensive way to fail its people.


What Needs to Change

Thirteen years in Ireland have shown me the solutions aren’t complicated:

  1. Double the mental health budget to match other European countries.
  2. Put counselors in every school to reach kids before they hit crisis.
  3. Send mobile mental health clinics to rural areas.
  4. Address alcohol and drug abuse as part of the mental health crisis.
  5. Train doctors to recognize and treat mental health issues.

Most importantly: make it okay to ask for help. Break the silence.


Looking Forward

I’ve watched Ireland change. This country moves fast when it wants to.

Ireland went from criminalizing gay people to celebrating Pride parades. It repealed laws that once held women back. It has proven time and again that when it cares enough, change happens.

Now it’s time for Ireland to care about mental health.

People are dying while we wait. Ireland’s famous for its “hundred thousand welcomes.” It’s time to extend that welcome to its own people, to those struggling in silence.

This country can afford to fix the problem. The only question is: how many more lives have to be lost before it does?


Need Help? Reach Out:

  • Samaritans: Call 116 123
  • Pieta House: Call 1800 247 247
  • Crisis Text Line: Text HELP to 50808


Julia Dunin

Commercial & Editorial Photographer and Founder of DUINE

2 个月

Very well written, very on point. Important to talk about it loud ??

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