Supporting people living with dementia at Christmas

This is such an important topic - not only at Christmas but at any gathering or event - Hanukkah, Diwali, Ramadan, weddings, parties. All of these are times to create memories - and in doing this we should always consider how we can best enable and support people living with dementia.

So let's share a few simple tips that can go a long way to enhancing this experience for all. And I'd love for you to share yours with me as well.

Some people living with dementia can find participating or following conversation more challenging - so think about getting out the photo albums, home videos, and other favorite memorabilia. This is a great way of making conversation easier for everyone - sharing memories. Music is another inclusive and supportive element that can bring people together - when words are forgotten, the memory of music can still linger. We all have a song that brings back a special memory, for me at Christmas it will always be Bing Crosby singing White Christmas that evokes my grandparent's house and my grandmother's amazing lunch on Christmas Day.

It is good to remember that lots of noise and busyness can also be tiring and so setting aside a quiet space for a break can be helpful. This might be a space for you to sit with the person you are supporting or find them a space of their own. I always had a room that my gran could go to - she would take a break from the festivities and come back after a rest, with a little glimmer in the eye as she knew there was pudding and brandy. What was important was that there was no pressure from anyone - we went with the flow on the day. Managing our expectations at these celebrations is important.

I like to think about starting meals in a traditional way, this might be saying grace or with reflections of the year - whatever is important to you, your family, or community, so people with dementia know what is expected. Contrasting colors for food and crockery, smaller portions sizes, and having finger food options are all meal ideas that everyone can benefit from but particularly provide dignity and choice for the person with dementia.

Finally, with the generosity of Christmas in mind, please consider supporting time out for carers by offering to support the person living with dementia during mealtimes or other parts of the day. And remember to be kind to yourselves over the holiday season.

Have a wonderful Christmas and holiday season - and don't forget Dementia Support Australia services are accessible 24/7 365 days a year on 1800 699 799 www.dementia.com.au if you need support.