Supporting Leaders to Succeed

Supporting Leaders to Succeed

Moving Beyond Labels to True Guidance


In recent years, social media has become saturated with posts about “good” and “bad” leadership. Experts, coaches, and thought leaders often weigh in with sweeping judgments and clear-cut definitions of who or what makes a leader effective. While there’s no shortage of well-intentioned advice, I believe there’s a fine line between providing guidance and setting rigid, one-size-fits-all standards. And, perhaps more importantly, we need to ask ourselves: Who has the authority to decide what makes a good leader?

For me, leadership is not about adhering to a fixed set of attributes or meeting external expectations. Rather, it’s about being true to one’s own principles, values, and personality. When leaders align with their core values and lead authentically, they embody something even deeper than trust—a quality rooted in personal integrity and respect for others.

Far too often, discussions around leadership highlight flaws, projecting a critical lens that may be neither relevant nor constructive. Shaming or condemning leaders for not fitting into a predefined mold doesn’t contribute to meaningful growth or improvement. I believe it’s not only unfair but also unproductive to label someone as a “good” or “bad” leader based solely on external observations.

Instead, why not focus on how we can empower leaders to thrive, especially in today’s complex world? The demands on leaders have never been greater than they are now. Organizational structures, digital transformation, employee needs, and constant change mean that leaders are juggling more than ever. Each decision, each interaction, requires the ability to pivot, adapt, and keep an open mind—all while staying grounded in who they truly are.

Understanding and Supporting Leadership in a Changing Landscape

In place of generalized advice, what if we shifted our approach to genuinely supporting leaders in their unique contexts? Here are some ways we can better understand and support leaders on their journeys:

  1. Empathy Before Evaluation Leadership is a challenging and deeply personal role. Rather than jumping to conclusions about a leader’s decisions, we should seek to understand the context, pressures, and motivations driving those decisions. Every leader operates in a unique environment with its own specific challenges, and empathy allows us to recognize the factors that influence their actions. By understanding the human side of leadership, we create a foundation of mutual respect.
  2. Personal Alignment and Authenticity Leaders are most effective when they lead from a place of authenticity, grounded in their values and strengths. When leaders feel pressured to conform to a checklist of “ideal” traits, they risk losing sight of what makes them unique and impactful. Our role as mentors, coaches, or colleagues is to help leaders connect with their inner compass, giving them the confidence to navigate challenges in a way that feels true to themselves.
  3. Respecting Individuality and Privacy Leadership requires trust and confidence—qualities that are compromised when leaders are unfairly judged or criticized. Creating a safe space for leaders to reflect on their goals, challenges, and growth areas without fear of judgment is essential. Leaders should feel respected and valued as individuals, free to develop their own unique styles and approaches.
  4. Fostering Resilience and Adaptability Today’s leadership environment demands flexibility and resilience. Leaders are continually adapting to new expectations, technologies, and team dynamics. Instead of criticizing them for perceived shortcomings, we should provide tools and support that help them cultivate these qualities. By focusing on practical strategies that build adaptability, we empower leaders to not just survive but excel through change.
  5. Guidance Tailored to the Individual No two leaders are alike, and neither are their paths to success. Effective leadership support must consider the specific needs, strengths, and challenges of each leader. Rather than imposing a rigid framework, we should offer a flexible approach that adapts to each leader’s context and personality. When we tailor our guidance, we give leaders the freedom to grow in ways that feel both authentic and empowering.

A Call for Supportive Leadership Development

Let’s replace quick judgments and rigid labels with meaningful support and empathy. Leaders today face a uniquely complex landscape that calls for a nuanced approach. When we provide leaders with the right tools and encouragement, we enable them to lead with clarity, integrity, and confidence. Our focus should be on guiding leaders to recognize their own strengths and values—helping them build the resilience needed to meet challenges head-on.

By embracing a supportive approach, we don’t just help leaders succeed; we also foster healthier, more adaptive organizations. Leaders who feel truly seen and supported are more likely to cultivate an atmosphere of trust, respect, and collaboration within their teams.

In the end, leadership is about much more than hitting predefined metrics or embodying textbook traits. It’s about individual growth, alignment with values, and a commitment to serving others with integrity. If we’re serious about creating thriving organizations, then we must prioritize empowering leaders as unique individuals rather than attempting to fit them into a standard mold. This is the type of leadership development that makes a lasting impact and paves the way for positive, sustainable change.

If you find yourself aligned with this short text, please reach out to me. Thanks in advance!

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Sylvana Caloni

Author, "Humble Crumbles: Savouring the crumbs of wisdom from the rise and fall of Humble Pie" at SC Executive Coaching

1 周

Some leaders are born, most are made. Your point about support for leaders Helle Ottesen is key.

Susy Francis Best PsyD MBA

Motivational Speaker, International Bestselling Author, Executive Leadership Business Consultant, Coach and Strategist helping leaders THRIVE no matter what obstacles, challenges and opportunities occur.

1 周

Helle, the, "move through the fear" concept is so key to our ability to get to places that are best for us in life. One of my tools is to identify and face the fear, name it to a trusted person and create a strategy for moving through it.

Steven Jones, Ph.D.

Principal at Altus Growth Partners and SEJ Consulting

1 周

Loving the quote Helle Ottesen. Yes there’s so much on the other side of fear when we step into our courage and choose to breathe into what’s next and needs to be done.

Dan Ruderman

Innovating through partnership and alliances. Creating the world's first embedded finance platform for the legal industry. All posts are mine alone and often TMI. Enjoy at your own risk!

1 周

I love the opening quote about everything being on the other side of fear, Helle! I first heard the quote “The toughest things can be overcome with 10 seconds of courage”, from a film that I think was called “So I Bought a Zoo”. I’ve never forgotten its intent.

Terri McNerney

*MD Inspire the best *Women's Centred Leadership Coach * Strengths-Based Executive & Group Coach * Develop Aligned, Resilient & Thriving Teams. Partner with Turningpoint Leadership for largescale/global projects

1 周

Completely support this approach to leadership Helle Ottesen Ottesen - the best way for the most sustainable, effective and authentic leaders I believe!

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