The Superpower You Can Use to Deal With Generation Gap

Have you noticed how the term "generation gap" keeps cropping up in conversations? We all sense it, but what is this gap, and can it ever be bridged?

In India, tradition is like a family heirloom—treasured by some, tolerated by others, and tossed aside by the rest. For my parents' generation, tradition is the lifeblood of family values. It dictates how events unfold, relationships are maintained, and expectations are set.

My generation is somewhere in the middle. We respect these traditions but aren’t always bound by them. We see their value but also their constraints.

My daughter’s generation often views these customs as archaic and irrelevant.

For example, imagine a family gathering—a wedding, let’s say. For my parents' generation, it’s about the celebration and the accompanying rituals. First, the family head must be welcomed, followed by a hierarchy rivalling a royal court. Skipping these steps is unthinkable.

This is just one example. Indian families have many such instances.

Some in my generation follow these practices, and some don’t. But expecting my daughter’s generation to adhere to these rules is a recipe for conflict.

It’s Not Always About Generations

It’s not always about the generation gap. Sometimes, it’s just about how you were raised or your beliefs.

I’ve seen people from my parents’ era who couldn’t care less about these rituals. They’ve adapted, evolving their beliefs with the times. And I’ve met teenagers who love these customs, who find joy in practising what their grandparents cherished.

So, who’s right? Who’s wrong? The answer is simple—no one.

The Clash of Expectations

Unfortunately, these differences can create friction. A wedding that should be a celebration can become a battlefield of unmet expectations. The head of the family feels ignored, and the younger ones feel stifled. Suddenly, what should have been a happy occasion leaves behind a sour aftertaste.

Why does this happen? Expectations. When you expect others to mirror your beliefs, you set yourself up for disappointment.

Here’s a thought: What if you let go of those expectations? What if you allowed others the freedom to live by their values, even if they don’t align with yours?

Imagine this. You walk into a family event, and everything unfolds differently from what you believe is right. Would it ruin your day? Or could you let it go and focus on the joy of the occasion instead?

Letting go doesn’t mean you stop caring. It means you stop trying to control. Think about the ripple effect of your actions. When you let go, you also set the tone for others to relax. No one feels judged, pressured, or obligated. The result? A much happier, more harmonious gathering.

Conversely, clinging to expectations can create a chain reaction of negativity. Your discontent affects those around you, and soon, the entire mood is soured.

Why You Should Care

There’s a lesson here that extends far beyond family events. People are different, and moulding everyone into your worldview is exhausting and futile.

Accepting this reality can be liberating. You gain peace of mind when you stop trying to change others and instead focus on your response. You realise that happiness isn’t about control—it’s about acceptance.

The generation gap isn’t going away. But how we deal with it can make all the difference.

You’ll find that life becomes a lot simpler—and a lot more joyful.