SUPERMOM'S , DO THEY EXIST?

If you re looking for an answer to the question above, i hope you find it here. Be warned, to find it, you will need a mirror though. Looking back now, it is my opinion that at age 46, 25 years ago, you had no business getting pregnant. So i understand the stories you held on dearly and narrated to me time and time again. In that era, i can empathize with the emotions you felt, as a woman, i can relate.

The awkward  stares, ridicule and surprise from the faces of many. Ooh, let me add that you already had 5 children, so the readers can put this into better context. You should have been done by now, and you thought you were, focusing on your career and ministry. As tempting as it was, you ignored the murmurings of your mind, in attempting an abortion, and ooh boy, am i glad. Because of that single act of selflessness, I was born, i am here. 

That should be enough to be grateful to you for, and celebrate you, but no that is just the beginning of how awesome you are. Motherhood, a term so ancient, sacred and respected, at least from my part of the world. We all agree it transcends, the mere bearing of children though, because some women after bringing forth, live to destroy what beauty they create.

Again, if motherhood was limited to just the actual birthing capacity, many foster mothers, mother figures, step mothers will not be appreciated as they deserve to. Or if technology in the present or future , became so advanced that women no longer gave birth?, then motherhood will be lost, right? Motherhood is more than that, the biggest part of it is determined by the nurturing capacity of any women, to any child or person, that makes them live a meaningful life. 

It's said African parents have no chill, well i agree, I'm sorry mum, but you had no chill. At least for the younger years of my life, it was either your way or the highway. A system i rebelled against, but hey so did my siblings i'm told. In my mind, i blamed the age gap, between us. Your ideologies were so different from mine, times had changed, yet your values hadn't, when i grew older, i thanked God for what i once hated. Those same values have shaped me, and made me into a much stronger person. 

Your flaws were many, a mark that proved you are human. But your strengths outweigh them by far. You gave us God, you taught us focus, nurtured our goals, supported our dreams and inspired our drive. You were always on our team.

It's been one week, nine hours and 50 seconds and counting since you passed away. Our hearts are broken, yet filled with joy because you lived a purpose driven life. Thank you mummy for leaving a worthy blueprint for us to follow. Have a good rest in heaven and hopefully see you some time, not so soon. Happy mother's day, i hope heaven gets you a better gift than anything, i could ever give you. 

So to the question of if supermom's exist?, YES they do. however not in the same shape or form, and that is the beauty of it, there isn't one perfect way of becoming one, but it is essential that to become one, you must give it your best shot, all you've got. If you did all you honestly could, with the resources, situation and people around you, guess what? you are a supermom. And most probably , someone somewhere is thanking Heaven for you. 

Happy Mother's Day to all the amazing SUPERMOM'S out there...

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