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When I was getting certified as a positive psychology practitioner, one of the biggest traits that I learned from my mentor/coach was the practice of Gratitude

Scientific research has revealed that gratitude increases our happiness, strengthens our immune system, has us sleep better, helps us socially & boosts our work productivity

With all these benefits, it’s clear that the practice of gratitude is a worthwhile pursuit

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It is not easy for many to be truly grateful (like REALLY grateful, you know what I mean)?

One of my clients candidly accepted this in a recent session

“I just don’t feel grateful, and I feel guilty and shameful for that. I have tried to see the good in everything, journaled, saying thank you for what I have, but it feels fake & pretentious.”

First of all, I honor her for being open & vulnerable. In fact, that’s what the space of coaching gives us

Yes, Gratitude does not come naturally for everyone, and the practice is not easy

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Forcing ourselves to say thank you when we feel hurt or disrespected can add an insult to our suffering

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Gratitude is actually one of the first expressions of our human consciousness. So is compassion, empathy, and awareness

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Instead of trying to be grateful, let’s honestly “investigate” the reason we are not grateful

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Being aware of this is the beginning

Do you focus on negativity (Our brains are wired to focus on negative experiences)

Do you compare a lot??

Do you have a tendency to numb your feelings - both good and bad?

Have you had a childhood upbringing where it was modeled for you to find fault in the outside world

Or does it come from having been abused or neglected or a trauma event?

It is OK to be in this place. You can work through these fears, repression and trauma somatically to melt, release and transmute them

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Remember that practicing gratitude does not negate difficult feelings

Expressing gratitude doesn’t mean you have to ignore or suppress an uncomfortable experience and it doesn’t diminish the difficulty of your experience

For instance, being grateful that you ended a painful relationship does not mean the hurt and disappointment you feel aren’t real or important

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That means

KNOWING Yourself at the level of MIND

LOVING Yourself at the level of HEART

TRUSTING Yourself at the level of GUT

If you can become more stabilized in level 3, you don’t even have to try to be grateful

Gratitude will start flowing into everything you do, as your natural expression