Suicide

Today I learned the very sad news that one of the key people I used to work with had taken his life *

It’s stomach churning when you hear news like this, and not for the first time I’m left thinking “is there more that I could have done?” And of course it is way too easy to blame yourself, because you could always have done more …. you could have stuck with them wherever they went for example, but that is never going to be realistic.

I say not for the first time, because I’ve lost a member of my family, a member of my rugby team, two friends and four work colleagues, all male, to the same cause. And all bar one of those people was considered the life and soul of the party, which makes it even more strange. Or should I say even more understandable?

So what can we do? All the UK radio stations carried a similar message today. It was to text a friend and ask how they are. If they say “fine” ask them again and give them a chance to talk, as many hide their true feelings and need the prompt to open up. Stiff Upper Lips have a lot to answer for.

But you can do more. As in you! For example, you can approach your employer and volunteer to help them set up a network of Mental Health First Aiders. Not only will more people be trained in understanding these issues, but someone might actually be helped in such a way that they don’t take their life, or at a simpler level, they might take confidence in their own actions or feel better about something they were otherwise worried about. You can talk about your own experiences and help reduce the stigma of talking about mental health issues. And you can check in regularly with your friends and family.

If you’re interested in finding out more about Mental Health First Aiders, then Mental Health England is a great place to start https://mhfaengland.org/

And another way is to have a chat to Natasha Gordon, who project managed the establishment of a system at Wellcome and who is now sharing her expertise with other companies as a consultant, whilst working with Frazzled Cafe, the fantastic initiative pioneered by Ruby Wax. Let me know if you’d like an introduction.

If we all make lots of small changes, we will start to make a difference.

*no names at this stage until everyone has heard through the correct routes


Liat B.

?? My Opinions Are My Own | MSP Consultant | Business Process & Technology at KellyOCG

5 年

Thank you for putting it out there and helping to get rid of the stigma that goes with “being not quite right today” or being afraid to share that you are not feeling your best and it is nothing to do with your physical state. It is OK not to always be OK ????

Dr Hilary Williams ChPP

Programme Delivery & Operations Manager, Digital at Energy Systems Catapult

5 年

This is something I saw posted a while back that resonates here. We are often very dismissive of people when they are not in a state of good mental health. No wonder it’s hard to open up if we think these are the responses :”/ thoughts we feel we will encounter. However, acknowledgement of this means we can do something to address it and improve ?? Ted - I was touched by your post. Thank you for sharing and caring enough to drive for change.

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Chris Newstead

Communications Consultant and Festival Director

5 年

Oh Ted. Such sad news, again. Thank you for the post.

Lisa Baker

Senior Team Leader (Protein Crystallography & NMR) & Project Leader at Vernalis

5 年

I really like the thought of mental health first aiders. Great idea. Sam Carford

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