This Successful Single Professional in Zurich Almost Gave up on Finding a Partner, Then She Tried This Instead

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Her dating life was non-existent, and she almost gave up on love.

When I met Laura, her dating life was non-existent. 

She was close to giving up and accepting that there were no men out there who would be interested in building a serious, committed relationship with a successful single lady like herself. 

She didn’t think there were men who would find such a woman desirable.

Laura is a successful lawyer. She had two long term relationships that didn’t work out, but she still had some hope left that she could create a good relationship with someone. 

When Laura started working with me, her goal was to change her mindset and claim back the fun in meeting and dating men, learn the necessary skills to interact more successfully with men and to ideally find a serious romantic partner.

She wanted to learn how to be better at dating and create a happy, fulfilling, lasting relationship.

”Being smart and independent makes me undesirable.”

That was just one of Laura’s limiting beliefs when I met her. Another was, “There are no men out there who appreciate and even look for an independent, successful lady.”

This is huge, especially for successful professional single women. 

Often times the biggest blocks that stand in our way from meeting someone are the beliefs we hold about ourselves or about the opposite sex.

No one looks for a serious relationship on Tinder.”

This was another belief she had. Now, don’t get me wrong, there are plenty of people out there who are using these online dating platforms and dating apps for the sole purpose of flirting and having sex. However, that is by far not everyone. And to assume it is is to cut yourself off from a huge opportunity to meet the right partner.

She met her partner after just 2 months of working with me.

Laura hired me for private coaching. 

She was already in a good starting position, having gone through some personal growth work in the past years, which served as a good basis for our work together. 

With my guidance and tools, she was able to move outside of her comfort zone and be open to meeting and interacting with men in a new way. 

Within two months of working together, she met a man that brought everything (and more) to the table that she had identified as “must have qualities” in a partner, and who could not wait to be in a serious romantic relationship with her.

They are now 10 months into their relationship and instead of dreading the holiday season and New Year’s Eve and the thought of “another year gone by without having met anyone”, she is happily making plans with her partner for next year.

Now what’s interesting is that when she first met her now partner, she wasn't too excited about him after their first date. She was on the fence about going out with him again. I encouraged her to give him a chance and get to know him better. 

(Many relationships never start because people filter each other out prematurely. This is just one of the top 5 mistakes I see women make on the first date.)

The more she got to know him, the more she liked him. She realized what a great man he is and how compatible they are.

She was surprised to find herself actually enjoying the dating process and their connection grew.

When questions or anxieties came up for her, I was right there to guide her through to the other side.

They hadn’t been planning to move in together just yet, but when lockdown happened, they decided to do it. They both worked from home, and she shared with me that this only strengthened their relationship.

Most notably, she overcame the one challenge that she had always avoided: her fear of dating on an app, and Tinder especially. She shared with me that meeting her now serious and committed partner on Tinder of all places is proof it was worthwhile to “take that bull by the horns.”

In our time together, we worked past her limiting beliefs.

She now believes:

• There are definitely men out there who appreciate and even look for an independent, successful woman—they may even be found on Tinder
• Relationships do not have to be hard, it is just a question of finding and choosing the right partner who is investing equally.

Here’s what Laura has to say about the experience in her own words:

“I would definitely recommend coaching with [Trea] to others who are looking for a quality partner/relationship and who are ready to take action and to truly engage in the process. [Trea] understands the situation of single, professionally successful ladies – but [she is] also clear on where we perhaps stand in our own way. This warm and kind, yet strict, support made the difference for me.”

To discover how you too can finally find the right partner, even if you’ve tried for years or believe it won’t work for you…

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__________________________________________________________________________About Trea Tijmens: Is a leading international matchmaker and award-winning dating expert. Trea is also the former chairperson of the Advisory Committee of the Matchmaking Institute. Prior to launching SuccessMatch 15 years ago, Trea was an executive headhunter.

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